4 Quick Tips on Being a Better Grandparent

 

 

 

 

Grandparenting Tips…You can follow the best tips out there about being a good grandparent, however, are those the right ones for you? Every child and grandparent is different. We are all unique individuals =)

Always follow your gut instincts. Of course this is true for general parenting as well. However, for grandparents, they have a little more experience, (especially if they’ve raised a big family). A grandparent’s instincts are usually good ones. For me personally with raising just one child, I’ve learned a world of knowledge through my experience. Would I have done things differently? You bet, for a lot of things, I would and some others, I would not.


So Grandmas, lean on your experience and always trust your own gut instincts. For the most part, they usually end up being the right choices.

Listen to your grandchildren. I mean, REALLY listen to them. Spend quality time with your grandkids and take extra special time and listen to their opinions and feelings about life, their self esteem and also how they react to you and what you have to say. And most importantly, respect THEIR feelings.

Respect your children’s wishes regarding discipline. Hey, this is a huge one! I don’t care how much you have to bite your tongue and swallow everything that wants to come out of your mouth when it comes to disciplining your grandchildren.

Have a talk with your kids and always, always respect their wishes about various discipline issues. And spanking happens to be one of those things. Times have sure changed since I’ve raised my child. For most of the new parenting generation, spanking is not a disciplinary choice. There are various alternatives to spanking. You really need to have a heart to heart conversation with your kids, and follow their wishes.

Reach out to other grandparents. This can benefit both you and your grandkids. Joining a grandparent’s group is one way of reaching out to other grandparents that have been through it all. Participate in conversations and take notes. You also may come away from some of the meetings with a new friend or two.

A grandparent’s job is sometimes challenging, just as normal parenting is. There is a learning curve to both parenting and grandparenting. Above are just 4 general grandparenting tips. I’m sure you can find more by following them, and also doing a search on Google.com.

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Half a Dozen Important Things I’ve Learned As A New Grandma

 

 

 

 

Grandparenting duties are a blessing to me. I know there is a little handsome and smart boy who needs my help with raising, disciplining, and YES, loving him!! It’s an honor having the title of Grandparent. However, I’ve learned so very much from being one. I would love to share them with you all 🙂

 

However, first I want to say that all Grandmothers deserve a medal of honor! 😉 lol

 

Below are 6 things I’ve learned about being a Grandmother

1. Bite that tongue – I’ve been doing a lot of this! As I’m sure a large portion of Grandparents do this. It’s only nature that most Grandparents would like to continue with what they knew per se, 25 to 30 years in the past.

You will find out rather quickly that you want to blurt out various things to your grandchildren and your kids while enjoying and disciplining your Grands. And I’m not talking about bad things; I’m talking about all those old fashioned rules and ideas that us Grandmas still hold dear to our hearts! Times sure have changed! 😉

2. Certain expectations fall by the wayside – You are in for many, many surprises being a Grandma. What you expect to happen doesn’t AND what you don’t expect DOES happen! lol And everything in between. Boy was I wrong with what I had in mind after my first grandbaby arrived. All children start to develop their little personalities in the womb. While some challenging behavior can be corrected once your grandchild is 1 1/2 years old to 2 years. However, remember that most of their personality is forming before they are born.

I also expected to be able to do my online work while watching my grandson full time. Didn’t happen! I even had the cradle that my Dad made for my son in my office. Didn’t happen! My little guy constantly wanted to be entertained. I ended up watching him for approximately 6 months and then Mom gave up her job and talked my son into letting her stay home full time. My Daughter-In-Law wanted to stay home with him from day one!

Just a warning, if you’re reading this article, and you are in the same boat I was in, be prepared.


3. It’s much easier to babysit your grandchildren at their homes – Wow this is for sure 100% true! Well, think about it; your grandkids have all their toys, bed, favorite foods etc at their home. To disrupt that, it may rock the boat somewhat when it comes to their behavior. They also sleep much better when at home. I have learned this many times over! Some kids just don’t sleep good when away from home. However, some do. Every child is different.

4. Patience is still a definite virtue – My mother was the most patient person I’ve ever known. She always spent time with me when I needed her. Practicing patience is something that should be on all parent’s wanna-be list. It should be your number one priority. Children didn’t come with convenient and simple instructions. Life is not that simple. As new parents; you will need to spend time with your kids and bond with them. Spend quality time with them and teach the same things that were taught to you…only give your kids a lot more indepth teachings along with long-suffering patience. Your children will appreciate and remember this!

Well, you know that all that holds true for grandmothers. When your Grands are screaming “Mamma and Dadda!” You need to be patient with them; as with any other behavior.

5. Never forget that your grandchildren ARE NOT actually your children – That may be challenging for some grandparents to read or hear. Well, in a way they are. However, us Grandparents don’t have the final say about various rules, discipline, religion, and so many other things. We need to sit back and let Mom and Dad do their own thing. Although whatever the situation; some grandparents create their own recipes for disaster and step in too far. I DON’T want to be that type of Grandma! My kids are quite intelligent adults, and our grandkids will be nothing short of smart, compassionate and responsible adults.

6. Being Grandma isn’t always easy – Grandma, you’re in for a wild ride with your new role! You will get your feelings hurt more times that you can count. This is especially true when they get to the age where they know that Mom and Dad is indeed their Mom and Dad. And they know it when they leave. Grandma, are you able to calm your little one and soothe the hurt? Sometimes you can and sometimes you can’t. This is what I’ve learned myself. I sure wish I had a dollar everytime I’ve heard, (through real crocodile tears) “Where Mamma and Dadda at??” 🙁

When I first became a grandmother, I daydreamed about my little guy sleeping peacefully in his crib that we have in our home. Well, that sure didn’t happen. Maybe a couple of times. However, most of the time, he ended up sleeping with both Amma and Pappa. Don’t you just love the “Amma?” =) lol

Another thing that I was looking forward to was taking my grandson to various places…out to eat, or to the grocery store. Guess what!? That has yet to happen. Us Grandparents have NOT taken him anywhere by ourselves yet.

Through all the crying and sleepless nights, I’m proud to say that becoming Grandma is still the best experience I’ve had throughout my life. 🙂

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Parenting and The Terrible Two Tantrums – Akka Pity Party

This goes out to all Grandparents out there as well, even though it’s parenting advice in general, grandparenting may be a full time job for you. So hopefully this article will benefit many. 🙂

Ahh, the famous, terrible two tantrum (pity party) lol

You’re at Walmart and your child is high-pitch wailing because he wants a specific toy. We’ve all been there! However, HOW we react to these violent, squirmy temper tantrums and the consequences we use is what matters.


When you’re at home with your child, how long do you let your toddler cry or scream? I say…let them throw a hissy fit and cry, kick and scream; for the majority of the time anyway. There will come a time where your child will be exhausted from the consistent wailing he or she is doing. Their voice will also get hoarse. LOL

Here’s the thing, IF you know they are not sick or running a temperature, or they are not hurt anywhere, or their diaper doesn’t need changing, and you know that they are not just screaming due to needing a nap, this parent/grandparent says, It’s not going to hurt them one bit. And they will soon figure out that you won’t jump every time they cry out for not getting their way, your child will eventually give up on testing you. And that’s exactly what they are doing! These days children are generally born more intelligent than years ago. They DO know exactly what buttons to push. 😉 It’s comical in a way when you think about it.

I’ve seen my grandson display a pretty bad pity party, and all the while watching his mom out of the corner of his eye; just to see what kind of reaction he will receive. And I sometimes can’t help but chuckle to myself. Now I DO know that’s definitely the WRONG thing to do, however like I said; I can’t help myself. And SHAME ON GRANDMA!! lol 😉

With all that said, I think you’re definitely onto my first tip; at least you should be!

#1 Let them cry their pity party out. Now, this should be the case for anywhere you may travel with your children. However, it’s rather embarrassing and just draws negative attention if you’re in a crowded store, at church, (or where ever you happen to be where there is a lot of people around). Your child will soon figure you out and know they won’t get their way

#2 Don’t laugh, and Grandma, that means ME!! When you laugh; that of course makes it 10 times worse! That should be common sense of course! lol

#3 Reward your children when they DON’T throw a pity party. And this doesn’t necessarily mean buying them candy or toys. You could take them out to their favorite place for lunch, or have them pick out the menu for dinner that night. Stickers work too! 🙂 Remember, kids LOVE stickers.

#4 Reverse psychology. This works sometimes when you’re at home with the kids. Especially while they are young. While they are crying, pretend to cry yourself. You MUST be a good actress with this technique Mom! LOL I mean, give it all you’ve got. And then see what happens. This worked for me when my son was very young. It also worked (for just a couple of times) with my grandson. He is VERY smart! When I pretended crying, he immediately stopped the wailing, (STRAIGHT FACE….LOL) and looked at me and said, “HUH?”

Well, you know what I did, don’t you? YES, I laughed, not good Grandma!! 😉 And guess what? My grandson was NOT laughing. He went back to his pity party. That goes to show that it DOES work if you can keep a straight face. 😉

#5 Ahh, spanking? Now this day and time, spanking is just un-heard of and also a moral sin in the eyes of my daughter-in-law! lol She bluntly says, “I just CAN’T be the bad guy!” However, she does use time out and that does indeed work for her…sometimes. 😉

There are a lot of parents that think that spanking is just wrong. They say, “You MUST NOT hit a child!” Well, from my old fashioned perspective, a good spanking on the back side is not considered hitting. It’s considered discipline. Now I’m not talking about spanking them so hard, your hands end up black and blue, or you break a blood vessel…that IS wrong! I feel a spanking doesn’t hurt them at all, unless it’s just a love pat that brings about laughter from your child while they run from you. And all you parents KNOW what I’m talking about! These love pats are totally ineffective. LOL

Time out IS an alternative to spanking however.

I’d love to hear other Moms and Grands opinions and perspectives on all the above! TY 🙂

You can read more of Tammy’s tips on parenting Here.

Grandparenting Support For Caring For Grandchildren

It’s becoming more and more commonplace. I hear of grandparents giving up their vacations, me time, and not to mention those (golden years), as some people call it and refers to retirement…all for their grandkids. It’s very sad thinking about how many parents neglect their own children. Or even more staggering; the population of women who get pregnant that are too sick , too young, or not financially fit to properly care for a child.

So yes, more and more grandmothers and grandfathers are stepping up to the plate and taking over for the sake of their grandchildren. Are you among those grandparents? If so, indeed your life has changed tremendously, and in some cases; not for the better. Your health will play a big role on your new responsibilities, as well as your bank account.

So what can you do as a grandparent to make life easier? Below are 4 of the most important things you will want to take into consideration.


Health – The first thing you need to think about is taking good care of yourself. Simple scenario, if you don’t take care of yourself, how will you take care of your grandbabies? Practice good healthy habits. Eat right, get plenty of exercise and try and turn in early at night so you get the rest you need for the following day.

Support – Join a support group so you can share your concerns with others that relate to the same issues as you. This in itself can be a great help when it comes to your spiritual and mental self. A support group can often give you various perspectives on the many issues that surround your new day to day life and parental responsibilities. Also, if you have a loving and supporting spouse that is going to participate in caring and disciplining, that will most definitely be a big plus.

Parenting Class – You may not think this would be required, especially if you’ve raised more than one child. Trust me, a refresher parenting course may be just what you need. Things have changed a great deal in the past 20 to 30 years. When we were expecting our first (and only so far), I attended a class with my daughter-in-law, it was quite the enlightening experience. I could not believe just how very much I learned in that one afternoon.

Religion – God should certainly be the center of our lives, in everything we do. If you believe in God, prayer and fellowship with others in your community will be a tremendous help. Remember, God takes care of those who help themselves. Many think that phrase is in the Bible, however, it is not. It’s a famous quote from Greek mythology. Pray to Your God and teach your grandbabies to pray.

On the financial end of things, you may be able to get some financial aid. I’m sure it will depend on your income and various things. Check the following page for details Here

Above are just 4 things (the most important IMHO) to think about if you decide to take over parenting your grandchildren. It certainly won’t be easy. Take into account the tips above and also take life day by day and don’t worry about tomorrow. Worry only yieilds stress. 😉

Article By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is passionate about her Grandmother status and loves to share photos, advice, Grandparenting Articles and Tips

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Crafts With Grandparents

I thought the following(request for contribution) was a lovely post about family and a fun craft idea. Thank you Olivia. 🙂

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With all of the technology around, it may be hard for some grandparents to get their grandchildren to put down the laptop or game controller and convince the children to spend more time with them. Here are two crafts you can do with your own grandchildren that will engage them and perhaps pave the way towards a closer relationship with them.


The Story of Mom/Dad

By creating a book of what their parent’s life was like growing up, they’ll not only learn something, but will feel closer to your and their parent. What you’ll need is a scrapbook, decorative paper, scissors, glue or tape, family photos through the years, and markers or pens. You can get any of these supplies at your local craft store. Bring your grandchild with you so they can help pick out the scrapbook and paper.

Go through old pictures of your son or daughter and share stories about what your grandchild’s father or mother was like. Start from when he or she was a baby and work your way up to the present. Each page in the scrap book can contain either one picture or a bunch of pictures cut out with a part of the story written out. Decide who will cut pictures, who will write the story and who will glue everything down. If you don’t have a picture for a particular story you’d like to share, ask your grandchild to draw what he or she think happened and include it in the book.

When it’s finished, it can be something your grandchild and you can treasure together or it can be used as a Mother’s Day/Father’s Day gift or as a birthday present. Be sure to include your grandchild’s name and yours on the title page.

Where Do I Come From?

Another craft you can do with your grandchild that is educational and entertaining is centered around sharing your nationality. Whether you come from one country or several, it’s important for children to know where they come from. And who’s better suited to teach them than you? For this craft you’ll need poster board or a large map of the world, pictures from photo albums or magazines that depict your culture, scissors, glue or tape, a frame big enough to display your board or map, and something to hang it on.

What you are going to make together is a wall decoration that will display the pride of your family’s heritage. First, discuss with your grandchild what countries you come from. Talk about what makes each country unique and what it has to do with your family. Then ask if he or she has any ideas on where to get pictures showing these aspects. You can use family photos, images from magazines or pictures you find online.

Once you have all your pictures ready, cut them out and place them on your board. If you are using a map, try to place the pictures near the country they belong to. If there isn’t enough room, spread them out and draw arrows or lines going from the pictures to the country. If you’re using poster board, create any design you want.

When you have everything where you want it, use glue or tape to attach all your pictures. This is something your grandchild can do on his or her own. Once everything is glued down, wait for it to dry, then place it in the frame and hang it up where everyone will see. Be sure to sign your names at the bottom so everyone will know who created such a wonderful piece.
These two ideas can go a long way to bridging the gap between grandparent and grandchild. Give them a try and see how well you bond together. Have fun!

Olivia Nicholas is a writer, blogger and mom. She manages her home business of Plug In Candles and in her spare time loves to read, write and travel.

Grandmothers and Daughter-In-Laws – 5 Helpful Tips For A Healthy Relationship

By Tammy Embrich

I have a wonderful relationship with my daughter-in-law. We get along so well, especially regarding caring for my new grandson. 🙂

Some people can’t admit to this, as it can be a sticky situation. Maybe there is jealousy going on? Or you have very different opinions about child discipline. And this is fine…various opinions are OK. As long as you abide by your son and daughter-in-law’s wishes, especially if you care for your grandbabies full or part time.

You can be a great Grandmother and still get along beautifully with your son’s wife. However, there are certain things you just simply need to stay out of. There is nothing worse than an interfering Mother-In-Law or Grandmother.

Do you have issues with this? Do you feel it’s hard to stay out of your son and Daughter-In-Law’s affairs? Below are some helpful tips.


1. Communication – Staying connected with your daughter-in-law is vital to your relationship. Lack of communication can most definitely break that connection. It is important to always talk about everything that is a concern for both parties.

2. Respect – Always respect and be considerate of each other’s opinions, feelings, and thoughts.

3. Don’t be an interfering Mother-In-Law – It’s always a bad idea to put your 2 cents worth in where it doesn’t belong. It’s best to stay out of your son’s business after he has married. You need to let them make their own decisions as well as mistakes. They need to grow and find their own way. However, if your opinion or advice is asked for, then by all means, give it.

4. Be happy for your son and daughter-in-law – Your child has found his perfect spouse. Be happy for them and make it a habit to always celebrate their love for each other. This is so very important for your children’s healthy relationships.

5. Don’t show favoritism between your in law and your own child – If you do, there will sure to be problems lurking. Treat them both the same, as these are YOUR kids. Their birthdays is a perfect example for this. Don’t celebrate more for one than the other. You have a wonderful family, enjoy them and always treat them equally.

Family is so very important. You should be extremely happy that your child has found someone that makes them happy and complete. Then when your grandchildren come along, you will have a much better relationship with all of them.

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. You can find more parenting and grandparenting articles, tips, and more at Grandparenting Articles and Tips

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