Tips On Starting High School

Tips On Starting High School
By Aurelia Williams, author of Helping Your Teen with High School

Teenagers all over the world will take the leap from child to young adult this fall. They will be entering High School for the first time. This milestone brings a variety of feelings and emotions. They are beginning four of the most difficult, yet most memorable years of their life. If you think you are anxious and scared, try being your teen.

Here are a few Parenting Teenager tips on how to make the best of this stressful and confusing time in your teenager’s life (there are plenty more tips in my high school guide for parents).

Be Open and Understanding

Realize that your teen is going to be stressed and irritable for the first few weeks of their freshman year. There are many things that can contribute to your teen’s moodiness or withdrawn state. They are experiencing numerous changes in their life; all at the same time. Just like when you are pushed to your max with stress, your teen may experience headaches, stomachaches, or sleepiness. They need time and space to figure it all out in their own mind. Be patient and give them the time they need to sort things out for themselves.

Be Available and Reassuring

They may be young adults with a need to start making more decisions on their own and taking on more responsibility, but that doesn’t mean that they are full blown adults with minds that can handle all the stress and pressure of taking on those tasks. Reassure them that you are there when they need you and also how to “back off” when necessary so they can figure things out for themselves.

Your teenager is just that, a teen. You need to let them know that you trust them to make their own decisions. Let them know that you are always there should they get stuck and need a helping hand from someone they trust. Show them in ways other than saying things such as, “I’m here if you want to talk.” It’s not always easy for a teenager to start up a serious conversation, especially with Mom or Dad. There are times when you need to get creative. Depending on your teen that may mean writing a letter or taking them shopping and talking about what’s going on in their life while driving.

Be Supportive and Loving

Your teenager is no longer the ‘big dog’, but instead a ‘newbie’. Teenagers need to know that Mom and/or Dad support their decisions. They may have a difficult time fitting in; therefore, the need to try new things is necessary and helps them to figure out who they are. As long as the activity is not detrimental to them or anyone else, let them try a new sport, club, or other extracurricular hobby.

Support them in their decision, even if you know in the long run they will not participate next year. Give them the opportunity to find out for themselves if they enjoy certain activities. Remind them that family is something that will always be there. They are moving away from you as a parent but not disconnecting with the family completely and that’s ok.

Set Routines and Limits

Yes, they may be growing up, but they aren’t adults yet. Even teenagers need routines and limits. It will help to make the transition to high school easier on both of you if make limits together before the first week of school. Sit down and tell your child what your expectations are and really listen to their expectations of you as well. Settle on certain guidelines and routines that make both of you happy with the end result. This not only puts your mind at ease, but will also show your teen that you acknowledge that they are capable of making sound decisions and taking other’s considerations into
account.

Parenting Teenagers can be a trying time and high school can seem overwhelming for them. Share in the good times and be there to lean on for the bad. Before you know it, you’ll be catching that cap and tassel at your teen’s graduation.

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A Sticker Chart Can Help Modify Your Child’s Behavior

Are you at your wits end with cycle after cycle of bad behavior with your child? Do you raise your voice more than you’d like to?

It is true that children know exactly what buttons to push when it comes to discipline. They know when and how to test your allowances. YOU…The parent, should be in full charge. Not the other way around. A colorful sticker chart proudly displayed on your refrigerator can be of some significant assistance.
A behavior modification plan (if used properly) can successfully break through the cycles of undesirable or bad behavior. This can also be an effective learning tool to assist them in progressing to a new level of social development. Children love stickers. They make them feel special.

Present this behavior modification plan to your child with enthusiasm. Talk about it in a positive way. Let them know that you want them to learn and maintain good behavior habits and this is a really fun way of doing it. Take them shopping with you to pick out the stickers. Have your spouse join in on the excitement.

It is advised to give the plan four to six weeks to be effective. This should give your child a clear understanding of YOUR expectations for his or her behavior. These charts can also be used to assist with daily chores and homework.

Sticker charts assisted me in disciplining my own son. It worked like a charm. You can use various colors of construction paper to make these charts. I used the color blue. That is my son’s favorite color. I used a black magic marker to outline the charts. But, use your imagination…you can make them up however you wish. You can also use poster paper.

At the top of the chart, write your child’s name. Then list the desirable behaviors that he or she need to learn. For example: honesty, cooperation, responsibility, kindness.

Making a chart up for each month is ideal. Draw lines separating the listed behaviors. Place the date on the left side of the chart…drawing lines for each day of the month. This way, you will have a square to display a sticker for good behavior for that particular day. Make sure you have bright, colorful stickers on hand at all times. They can include, smiley faces, stars, hearts…anything that you think will capture your child’s attention or anything they might like.

For each day your child earns your approval on a particular behavior, place a sticker on the chart for that day. Be generous when just beginning the plan to motivate and encourage. Then adjust the amount of rewards accordingly. Help your child understand the value behind these behavior changes…(to feel better about themselves, not just to please you.)

Here are some helpful tips:

1) Be consistent with the plan. If your child feels that you have lost interest in the charts…he or she will most likely lose interest as well.

2) Go the extra mile and really show your admiration, appreciation, and approval when they display desirable behavior.

3) Take stickers with you wherever you go. You can also reward your child with them when you’re away from home. Children love to wear them on their clothes.

4) These charts are beneficial for teachers as well as parents

5) When your child completes a whole week (or month) earning stickers consequetively everyday, give them a special treat. Go out for pizza, go to the show, or let them invite a friend to stay over for the weekend.

6) (Important)…Never, ever forget to use plenty of smiles, hugs, kisses, and praise along with the rewards. Hugs and kisses go a long way. It is important to let your children know they are loved and special.

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. You can find more grandparenting and parenting articles, tips, and personal experiences, as well as photos and recipes at Grandparenting Tips and More.

Tammy also offers work at home articles, free job leads, work at home tips, and more at Work At Home Job Leads.

6 Practical Parenting Tips For Single Moms

By Tammy Embrich

All too often a lot of single moms feel that they have to be “super mom” and not expect or ask for any help. If you are among the super moms, you run a great risk of parenting burn out. We are all human and we all fall short of “doing it all” at some point. Hey, it’s tough enough raising kids as a 2-parent family. That goes double for single parents, especially single moms raising 2 or more children.

So, it is OK to ask for help or support when you’re trying to raise 2 or more kids? It’s not only OK, it is suggested. Remember as a single mom, you have to work hard to bring home the bacon without depending on any child support, whether you are receiving it or not. You never know when that money will run out.

You also have to raise your kids to be compassionate and responsible adults. That’s not an easy task in today’s world. For single moms it is quite the challenge. You are responsible for your child’s schooling, the clothes they wear, the food they eat, and also the air they breathe. Let’s face it, anyway you look at it, that’s a tall order for any single mom raising 2 or more kids.

For the moms out there that don’t think they are “super mom” and are not reluctant at seeking advice, there are a lot of practical things you can do for support in general, financially or otherwise.

Let’s take a look at 6 of those things

* Take good care of yourself – There is so much more to this than one might think. Pay attention to your body and mind. You have to first take care of yourself in order to take care of your kids. Exercise daily. Eat right and drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated. Get plenty of sleep. Watch your stress levels and try to avoid it at all costs. Smile, try it! It helps relieve stress.

* Join parenting network support groups – These can be in the form of online message boards, support websites, online chat groups, offline support group centers, and your church community.

* Start a parenting journal – This will strictly be for you as a parent and should be kept private. Writing in a journal can be quite therapeutic for some people. You can write about specific goals about parenting, anger management, and even special goals for yourself.

* Consider a roommate – Save a considerable amount of money on living expenses and have companionship at the same time. You will also have someone to swap babysit dates with. Your roommate will watch all the kids for one day, and then you take your turn at it. Beautiful concept if you are all for having a roommate. Some people like living alone and is a preference.

* Always show your love – Of course it’s crucial to your child that they know you love them. But there are special ways of showing your love. Give plenty of hugs, kids love them! Write a special message on a piece of paper and hide it in their school bag or lunch box. Show positive praise. Positive comments and encouragement goes a long way with your child’s self esteem and confidence.

* Discipline – Most often discipline is the most sought after advice for single moms. One important thing I have learned personally is controlling anger. If your child sees you angry while trying to discipline them, this gives them leverage to push your buttons even further. If you don’t get a handle on controlling your anger, you are sunk before you even begin.

“Stick to your guns” is also a famous motto you should always practice. If you tell your child one thing and then back out on it, what good is discipline in the first place?

Use your gut instincts with parenting and stay true to what you believe is the right thing for your children.

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. You can find more grandparenting and parenting articles, tips, and personal experiences, as well as photos and recipes at Grandma’s Home Blogger Place

Tammy also offers work at home articles, free job leads, work at home tips, and more at Work At Home Jobs.

My Experience With Attention Deficit Disorder as a Parent

This was my personal experience with my son, and a stroll down parenting memory lane. The name in the article has been changed to protect his identity.

It was like I was sitting back and watching a horror movie…my son having to the best of my recollection, the third temper tantrum of the day.

A colossal of thoughts rapidly flashing through my mind, I mean “What have I done so abhorrently wrong as a parent?” It was at that moment that I ultimately came to the resolution to have Tyler checked out by a doctor. My husband agreed and supported the decision.

Each time my sister-in-law so subtly converged me about what she suspected, I depreciated the thought, I didn’t want to acknowledge that attention deficit disorder may be the justification to it all. “Had I been in denial, or what?!”

From infancy, Tyler had been bustling with agitation. He was consistently active from the time he got up in the morning to the time he went to bed. I treasured the late evenings, nights were true serenity to me. And I admit this with sheer remorse, guilty as charged. Tyler slept well at night, and he had always been a good night baby. However, it was during the day that things became difficult, consequently with mom feeling overwhelmed, helpless, and exhausted.

From a mother’s perspective, more importantly, my perspective, admitting this is a profound deformity. Our children should be a joy to be around, we should thoroughly enjoy our time with them.

Tyler was indeed properly diagnosed with the disorder in question. I guess you can say there was no more denial, not even an ounce of it, as the doctor that seen him was a specialist and recognized the signs from the moment we met. I trusted him, believed in him, followed his sound advice, and utilized some constructive counseling. With much relief, Tyler was finally a true gem to be around…after he was treated with medication.

Fast forward to 20 years later…

I ensured that Tyler took his medication rigorously from the time he failed kindergarten until a year before he graduated high school. Yes, he made it through school! Not with an A average, nonetheless, he graduated.
He’s doing fine now with an exciting career as a carpenter. After all these years, I’ve subsequently came to the conclusion that I had done something right. Today, the connection between myself and my son is beyond proficient, as well as our relationship.

Ironically, I had found out something rather interesting as a result from the counseling. I had discovered that I had (Adult ADD). Unfortunately, the disorder was inherited from my father’s side.

I realize that technology has evolved considerably , and ADD has become quite the controversial topic among other moms. Today, there are varied behavior modification alternatives to medication. Although, having said that, I don’t have any regrets with how I handled the situation.

As a mom, I did the best I could. However, over the years, my mother-in-law had not consistently shown compliance . Her slightly impertinent thoughts, and words, for that matter, “Ah bull, boys will be boys. The famous words coming from, I guess you could say an old fashioned mother-in-law. I love her very much. I only wish she could have shown just a little more support.

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. You can find more grandparenting and parenting articles, tips, and personal experiences, as well as photos and recipes at Grandma’s Home Blogger Place

Tammy also offers work at home articles, free job leads, work at home tips, and more at Work At Home Job Leads.

And yes, the proud parents of our upcoming grandchild are already wondering if their child will have this disorder.

First Step To Downsizing

Hi there,

As some of you may know, I’ll be very busy in a few months babysitting my grandson. Due to this, I will be saying goodbye to my parenting blog. I’m trying to downsize a bit. So, I will be transferring my collection of parenting articles to this blog. I think these articles will compliment Grandma’s Home Blogger Place, and also will be a nice addition. 😉

I will be focusing on this task next week, also contacting my blog rollers on my parenting blog.

Encorporating general parenting to this blog will surely make for even more discussions. =)