Becoming Jesse – Celebrating The Everyday Magic Of Childhood Review

Becoming Jesse As you know, I’m always delighted to have a fan of my blog get in touch with me about a review. This time, it was a (book review) about childhood, magic and grandmothers. Tom McCandless; (the author’s spouse), was kind enough to email me and invite me to do the review. At the end of his emails was a very small phrase that read, “Light Onthat had me guessing <3

I’ll tell you about the author of this wonderful novel in just a bit. In the meantime, keep the phrase I told you about (above) in your mind as I begin to tell you about Becoming Jesse. 😉

I was so excited when I finally had the package and opened it. I love doing book reviews. Although, this was (sort of) a long book. (317 pages to be exact). I let myself go into a little bit of an overwhelm mode of how I was going to have the time to actually read it. Well, let me tell you that after I dove into it, I MADE TIME to read because I literally could not put it down. LOL

 

Becoming Jesse Was That Good!!

 

We've become a plugged world with our eyes and ears glued to our iPhones, tablets, or what have we; (me included). Why not take a refreshing day from it all and indulge in this delightful gem of a book?!

 

Patsie McCandless

Celebrating The Everyday Magic Of Childhood ~~ Becoming Jesse, was fictionally set in New York City in the 1950s. This charming story borders on five main characters; a six-year-old, orphaned, shiner boy named Jesse, his grandmother Dearie, Billy, Conor, and Jessica.

Early on, determined Jesse set out on a journey of questions. A journey with turns, and sometimes, disappointment. Charm, warmth, Light, thrill-digging imagination, love, kindness and hope takes place as this little boy embraces the unknown.

Becoming Jesse

Jesse follows his grandmother’s life lessons and (Rule Of Tongue) with a loving attitude as the story unfolds. Through sparklers, circles and spirals, mourning, and the spirit of Christmas; and (with) the help of Dearie, he surprises himself with a wonderful, childhood magic and a message-filled guiding light for him AND for everyone around him.

========================================================================================
This book of fiction is not ONLY for grandmothers; but for everyone that reads it. It is a true stepping stone on how to go about life positively and to deal with today’s hardships. All through a 6-year-old boy.
========================================================================================
 

Not long after production, Becoming Jesse was found on the best seller list and currently has a five-star rating on Amazon.

 

Becoming Jesse

About The Author: Patsie McCandless successfully wrote and self-published a beautiful, fictional storybook/novel at the age of 70. Patsie is also an award-winning artist and musical composer. In the media, she is featured in TEDx Talk, Saving The Magic of Childhood that focuses on cell phone addiction in children and provides tips on rising above it. Patsie McCandless has also been featured on Positive Talk Radio — Healthy Life.net. (where positive people and radio unite); among other media.

You can find Patsie’s exquisite art on her YouTube Channel and subscribe HERE

You can also find out more about Patsie HERE

Quoted Content From The Book

A snow fall, much like your life, is made up of billions upon billions of glitters

Love and hope often take pleasure in each other

Mad unplugs your energy, your light

Humor and Fun lift the corners of your mouth as they lift the corners of your heart

A bend in a road is never the end of the road, unless you don’t make the turn

You will surely come to know what the above (5) sentences mean if you read the book. <3

 

A Thanksgiving Reading From Patsie

I’ll leave you with one final thought today…

Before You Speak, Let Your Words Pass Through Three Remarkable Gates:

Is it kind? ~~ Is it true? ~~ Is it necessary? (K-T-N)

 

Thank you for reading! =)

You’ve Still Got It: A Grandparents Dating Guide

Dating, at any age, whether you are widowed or a grandma, is a big deal. You are finally ready to go on a few dates and give love another chance. The following guide is meant to help you get ready for those dates you are thinking of going on.

Jitters Cannot be Outgrown

One thing you might want to keep in mind is that dates are nerve-wrecking, and that is okay. You are not alone because most people feel on edge when they are on a date. This means you should do your best to stay present, even if you are nervous, Try to pay attention to answers so that you can answer accordingly. Knowing that this is natural should help keep you humble because many people of a certain age think they are above these feelings.

Know What You Want

This is no time to beat around the bush. You know what you want, and it is okay to make those truths known. Be honest about the kind of relationships you are looking for or any other little detail you think is important. This makes it easier for you to stick with a particular love interest or move on to the next person. It might sound harsh, but maturity is served in a glass of bitter honesty.

Personal Grooming

As much as you should work on being honest and ready to conquer the jitters, you should also worry about your personal hygiene. You probably say the same thing to your grandchildren. Much of the success of your first date rests upon the first impression you make, and your personal hygiene plays a role in that. It may sound simple, but remember the ritual of getting ready for a date.

This is not just about them finding you attractive, but you finding the confidence in yourself to be desired. Do your hair, take a shower and make sure your clothes are wrinkle free.

Oral Care

A smile is often your biggest asset. A genuine laugh can be the first spark of romance felt. =) Some people feel self conscious about their breath or teeth so they avoid smiling and laughing. That is not only sad, but can get in the way of genuine relationships. Remember to brush your teeth, and take care of your oral hygiene. We tell grandchildren to get braces both for cosmetic reasons and for oral and jaw health. Adults forget that implants can help your jawbone and boost your confidence. So, be sure to visit a cosmetic dentist if you need your teeth whitened or if you need some other work done.

Get Digitally Acquainted

There is no way around it, much of the dating world has moved from the real world into the digital world. It is okay to be a little apprehensive towards the idea of meeting potential love interest online, but many people are really connecting online. This isn’t about new VS old fashioned ways to meet people. Online dating can be great because you don’t go on a first date as a blank canvas. Instead of feeling like you’re in a job interview you can chat about the shared interest you already know you have. There are sites for Christian singles, for farmers, and everything in between.

Asking a loving grandchild to help you navigate online dating will be a bonding experience for the both of you. Do your best to learn how to do this effectively because it opens you up to all the opportunities out there.

Lean on Faith and Family

Dating as a grandparent usually means you’re healing from heartache. Whether its divorce or widowing it is never easy to make yourself vulnerable again. Dating is always uncomfortable and uneasy at first. Remember, it’s not hard because you’re not a catch. It’s hard because that comes with dating. Remember, if you choose to open yourself to love again you’re not being disrespectful to your loved one that has passed on or to your family. You are worthy of love. If your grandchildren and children are going through an emotional hard time you’d want them to turn to you for support.

Make sure you lean on them and bond over this experience. Those who love you will want you to be happy and share this beautiful life with someone. <3 Hopefully, some of these tips help you get into this world as seemingly as possible. Sure, you are probably going to make a few missteps from time to time, but that is dating. That part has not changed at all. Whether you’re looking for forever, or till time do you apart on earth, you are worthy of love and companionship.

Kara Masterson is a freelance writer from West Jordan, Utah. She graduated from the University of Utah and enjoys writing and spending time with her dog, Max

Family Organization Task Tips For Mothers and Grandmothers For 2019

organization tips I’ve been trying to organize my life, work, home, office, etc…for (let’s just say) awhile! 😉

I keep telling myself that I’m just like my mom <3 ~~ My Sis agrees with me. 🙂 Mom always had (small) piles of paper everywhere in the house; as far back as I can remember.

That’s certainly WAS NOT a (bad) reflection on Mom’s character!
She was a beautiful, pleasant, (and the most patient) lady I’ve ever met, with so many other good qualities.

I miss her every day! 🙁

So, what’s my point??

My point is: I’m NOT an organized lady. However, that’s not to say I can’t offer YOU tips and advice on becoming organized, grandparenting tips, frugal living tips, OR, anything else I put my mind to. 😉 I’m a writer by trade. I made a portion of my income by doing just that…writing. Notice I said, “Made.” 😉 lol

I’m also kind, pleasant to be around, funny at times, an awesome grandmother, proud of my grands, a little shy at times, married to the best, learning more and more about live streaming on Facebook, AND…having a blast with My Avon Business while doing it!

So, maybe organization and making lists/task sheets are labeled as overrated?? Well, maybe so. Although, I DO happen to think the information offered in this blog post is valuable.

So, back to The Topic at hand. Organization Tips For Mothers and Grandmothers

Grandmothers: There are quite a few grandmas that provide childcare, and actually have their grandkids living with them permanently. There are also some that have them staying with them a (portion) of the time; over a year, month, or week. Well, the same goes for grandmothers. This organization task list works for and applies to them as well.

 

Organize Tasks/Chores List For Each of Your Children/Grandchildren

 

What Is Required?

There are a few ways to organize family tasks that can be adjusted and readjusted. If you’re not a mom or grandma that does spreadsheets, you can delegate with simple, large, desktop or hanging calendars. Another idea would be magnetic erase boards that could be displayed on the fridge or just a simple one to hang on a wall. Actually, there are all kinds of ways to organize your life, home, and family.

It's your choice, and how important (you think) organization is to you. 😉

 

For tech and app-friendly mothers and grandmothers, there are all types of apps and excellent programs available. It’s really a matter of preference and ease, and whatever method that you feel most comfortable.

 

Work Up a Points Journal or Spreadsheet For Each Child

 

You could virtually do the same with a points system for your kids. A calendar, journal, spreadsheet, or erase board would also be ideal for calculating points. Really, you could use a simple, (large or small) notebook to do this.

Although, it is best to display a point system for behavior-challenged or young children. 😉 There is something about them seeing actual points tallied for THEM! It helps with a sense of accomplishment and also, helps to establish a feeling of “usefulness” and well being.

For Starters – Delegate For Basic Clutter – Have each child put away their toys, clothing, computers, tablets, and other personal things at the end of the day. After the kids are all tucked in for the night and asleep, inspect the house and their rooms for belongings that are not in their designated places. Reward with points accordingly. For things that are left out by one of your children, take those items away for a week or so, and make them work for getting them back. Don’t make this too hard on them; however, just enough to get the message across.

For the younger kiddos, encourage help, and always go through a nightly routine (with them). They need to be guided and praised for their self-esteem and learning capabilities.

 

Delegate For a Hand With Food and Meal Preparation

Healthy Snacks in Baggies – The awesome thing about this idea is that they are all “self serve foods.”

Small Pretzel Twists – Purchase a large bag of pretzels and divide them up in plastic bags. This snack choice is easy, healthy, and doesn’t include extra sugar.

Grapes: They are an awesome fruit that is also a healthy choice. Do the same with these.

Trail Mix: Trail mixes are a top pick for deciding what is good for you and your family. This snack is loaded with vitamins and minerals our bodies need. Divide them out in the baggies for quick access.

Encourage Eating Veggies With Baby Carrots and Cherry Tomatoes

Fresh Carrots – Your local grocery store usually provides packaged, baby carrots, so no need for cutting.

Cherry Tomatoes – These are tiny tomatoes that are excellent for portioning out.

Choose between your children to help fill these goody bags. 😉 This will also encourage healthy eating habits.

Have Your Kids Take Turns With Setting The Table – Choose between your little ones that are best suited for this task.

 

Older Kid’s Chores

 

Large Ingredient Meals…Such as Vegetable Soup, or Big Salads – Select older children to help cut up ingredients for these type of meals. A good idea is to let the younger ones observe to help teach them.

* Doing Dishes – This is also a task for the older ones; however, an ideal chore to delegate.

* Neat and Tidy Bedrooms – To encourage your children to keep their rooms clean, you can maybe pick the weekends to help each child to get into the habit of doing just that; clean and tidy (their own) rooms. For example: Have them empty all trash, pick up all dirty clothing, make sure all toys and tech-type items are in their appropriate places.

* Dusting – This isn’t too hard of a task, so all the kids can get into this cleaning chore, with careful supervision. Choose for them specific rooms to dust.

* Cleaning The Basement and Garage – This job could also be a weekend event. Sweeping needs to be done, and, tools and supplies need to be organized. Hand out those jobs according to age and level.

Remember, you are teaching your children and grandchildren to be responsible, clean, and organized adults. <3

Put Yourself on The Task List – This actually shows your little ones what all YOU do to keep an organized house and home. It displays and teaches what all is involved with organized, clean living. It is important to list EVERYTHING that you do, it may take a little time to get it all posted; however, it is worth it for your kids to see. <3

And Finally…

Realize that your children/grandchildren will need some time to learn and adapt to any type of family organization program or schedule, especially if they are young. Also, assigning a task that is too difficult for them will only be burdensome for both you and them. Start small on delegating tasks for each child. As they get older, you can always adjust for various levels and ages.

I certainly hope these tips were helpful! Chime in with your thoughts. 😉

Thank you for reading. <3

Healthy Grandma Status – Goals and My 15 Tailored Tips For 2019

This grandma has read and followed, (at least she thought), all the weight loss tips and tricks to successfully lose weight and keep it off.

Wait! Let’s back up a bit…

There are NO TRICKS to losing weight and keeping it off, however, rather (doable, researched, and realistic tips to place in your daily plan, and tweak accordingly.

 

 

 

I’ve decided to revisit those tips, and find out if they have been particularly updated, or any new and fun things that I can incorporate into my daily life and routine. While I’ve been extremely motivated these past couple of weeks; I’ve joined my local YMCA. Yeah!! Lol <3 PLUS, I’m doing an aerobic dance routine, first thing in the morning.

 

So now, I’m doing the research, asking questions, and working on tailoring a plan that I can realistically stay with and follow up with.

So, no! I have NOT read/researched/found and followed all tips and advice needed to lose weight and (keep it off; a future/new plan entirely). LOL

I’m so very tired of being on this Yo-Yo, roller coaster (DIET)!!!!!!! And, I know now, that a HEALTHY weight loss program is NEVER called a “diet.”

I’ve been on Weight Watchers, (however, not followed properly, and not categorized with crazy plans), Nutrisystem, and all types of “fad diets,” including the scarsdale and grapefuit diet LOL…only to gain all my weight back. Now the Scarsdale and grapefruit DIET was long, long ago!

Do any of you remember those?
Weight Watchers
deserves another look, maybe
? 😉

That’s not to say I’m NOT going to try a meal replacement drink or two. I happen to believe they are good choices (as long as you don’t drink them, and only them). Slim fast is one that comes to mind. In fact, I have a few in my fridge I intend on trying. I know they have a lot of good vitamins and minerals in them, and, so many nutrients that I don’t even know about! In addition, most meal replacement drinks have a ton of fiber; which we ALL need for weight loss, and weight loss maintenance.

Important Note: I have to keep in mind an awesome reason and huge motivator that I have for transpiring into healthy; and that is, my grandchildren. =)

Now those precious little ones are not my only motivators; although, they are high up there! <3 <3 😉 I have my other family members, and also, my friends. In addition…I have MYSELF!!

Losing weight is not all that I’m striving for, however; an overall, healthy and active status so that I can be more comfortable and actively thriving as and when I get older.

You know those golden years?

Well, if I am able to achieve my goals here, get to a healthy weight, and not have to be on tons of medicines, I’ll be able to live out those golden years…hopefully. So, going back to the golden years; my goal is; I want to be active and be centered in my grandkids’ lives. Period! <3

Short Version…2019 is the year this grandma is gonna get skinny!! Lol

15 of Tammy’s Tailored Goals and Tips — At Least My Take On Them

Eat Slowly —

I sometimes eat kind of slow; however, there are times I do eat fast, (if I’m real hungry). Remembering to eat slower is a good tip. If you eat fast, you tend to consume more calories because you might (think) you haven’t had enough or that you’re still hungry. Make sense? Another nice tip is if you eat more slowly, you digest your food better, therefore, making your system work more efficient.

Drink Tons of Water —

I think this speaks for itself. Although, there are many tips to point out. Drinking a lot of water is good for metabolism, it helps with hunger, and helps your system work faster. Water also helps with staying hydrated; especially for muscles while working out.

Switch to Dark Chocolate —

Dark chocolate is very good for your heart; that is a given, along with providing essential antioxidants to your body. It also, (helps) control hunger. Through the past couple of years, I’ve learned to like dark chocolate. It’s not better than the milk type, (my opinion), but it’s good that I at least like the type that’s good for you.

Eat Sorbet (in moderation) Instead of Ice Cream —

I love ice cream, LOL…Who doesn’t!? Actually, there are more people than you think that don’t like it. I certainly wish I were one of them. 😉 I’ve been eating sorbet (moderately). I’ve been told that it’s better for you than ice cream. Sorbet doesn’t have any fat. However, it has lots of sugar; and so, it turns to fat. I’ve researched it a bit, and, there are various opinions about it. Anyway, it makes me feel better to eat sorbet. Lol….so, if YOU have an opinion, or you have done extensive research on the topic; I’d sure like it if you shared your thoughts. I eat it every other evening. The other nights, I usually have a moderate sized bowl of sea salt popcorn.

So…if you DON’T like ice cream, you don’t have to worry, right?? lol 😉

Whole Wheat Bread Instead of White —

White bread has lots and lots of starch; which means it is high in sugar as well. Not a good choice when trying to lose or maintain weight. Also, with white bread; most of the good nutrients are lost due to the refined flour, and processing.

You are much better off eating whole wheat or whole grain due to its fiber content which aids with weight loss. It also has loads of vitamins and minerals that our bodies desperately need. Through studies, it is found that just by switching to whole wheat bread (alone) can ward off heart attacks, diabetes, high cholesterol, and, a host of other chronic illness.

Eat More Protein —

First off, fueling with protein gives you energy. That’s why it’s important to increase its levels while walking, running, cycling, and strength training…especially strength training!

Nuts, eggs, peanut butter, beans, lean turkey, beef, and chicken are all healthy protein choices. Fish is also a good source. High protein also helps with muscle loss and speeds up metabolism.

According to Health Line DOT COM, In one study of 19 overweight individuals, increasing protein intake to 30% of calories caused a massive drop in calorie intake.

Eat Veggies and Leafy Greens —

I need to step up my game in eating more veggies than I do. However, I do like eating fresh cucumber, fresh green pepper, fresh baby carrots, fresh/frozen broccoli, fresh/frozen/canned green beans, (if they are cooked right), beets, and potatoes. Ahh, that last vegetable can considerably slow you from losing weight; just like that white bread. A baked, (sweet) potato is a much healthier choice. I have one in my fridge. I’ll probably bake it this week sometime. A baked sweet potato is a first for me, so I’ll let you know how I like it.

Leafy greens are very good for you; especially fresh spinach and kale. They are extremely low in calories; but high in antioxidants, good-for-you vitamins, and also, calcium. In some studies, leafy greens fight off certain kinds of cancer. The two weight loss user-friendly features I like the most are; they are low in calories and are extremely filling.

Always Eat Breakfast —

I enjoy my coffee in the morning; especially since I have my keurig. <3

I usually go until like…(sometimes) 11:00-12:00 to eat, what breakfast/brunch?! At least, I used to. 😉 That’s not good at all!! Since I’ve started working out, all that has changed. Exercising has literally forced me to eat breakfast quite early; as I’m out the door 8:00 – 8:30 for the gym.

We all know; at least most of us, that we have to eat BEFORE and AFTER strenuous activity. Right??

If you’re not aware of this, please, look it up. Going without eating (often), when you workout can lead to a huge drop in blood sugar, more fatigued muscles, feeling light headed, and so many other harmful things that will NOT be good for your health and will surely slow your weight loss considerably. Eat a healthy breakfast, and not a light one. Consume enough calories so that you can workout efficiently and your body can burn fat, and not store it.

Don’t Starve Yourself —

This is a biggie for me. I’ve had to learn from this one WAY too many times. When you starve, you’re not only starving your body; as you are also starving your hair, muscles, heart, brain, relatively ALL your organs. For me, I have to workout in order to lose weight. So, the muscle starving gets my attention big time. When you deprive your body of food and good nutrients, you ALWAYS make up for it when you start to eat again; and end up consuming a ton of calories.

Besides,…depriving yourself makes you store fat!

Don’t Leave Out Fat Altogether —

Not all fats are bad! There are good fats that will actually help you lose weight. Yes, that’s correct. The good fats are like dark chocolate, olive oil, flaxseed, some fish choices, and more. Maybe it stands to reason; if you want to trim down, don’t eat any fats. lol

If you load up on enough lean protein and skip the bad carbs and (bad fat, such as: potato chips, pastries, cookies, donuts…huh?? I LOVE donuts!) lol, and eat healthy fats, you will surely slim down faster. I’m actually still learning with this one. 😉

Weigh Yourself Daily, or NOT? —

I’m so bad on this. I HAVE to see my weight on a daily basis. Some think that it’s unhealthy to do so. For me, it just helps keep me on track when I’m being strict with myself. For a lot of people, (mainly women, of course) get discouraged when they find out they haven’t dropped so many pounds by a certain date. Well, the shedding of pounds depend on many factors. You may be holding water for some reason, or perhaps, a certain food had too many bad carbs, or contained a lot of sodium.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this one. 😉

Workout Daily —

This is definitely a preference. Or, it could be that you simply can’t workout due to disability, or some other reason. If you do take part in regular exercise, you will lose much faster. However, correct form and endurance will make all the difference. If you are doing everything in your power to slim down and get healthy, (the right way), you should add some type of activity to your daily routine.

Strength Train —

Now, this is definitely a preference. Although, strength training is great for toning up your muscles and helps with getting rid of extra skin. IF…done correctly. I’ve heard so many times that if you do the training moves right, drink tons of water, eat enough calories, especially protein, you should be able to tighten up.

Be Around Others —

This is huge for me. Most of you know that I’m a shy person. I’ve gotten better over the years. A few social butterflies are still there. So, it’s important for me to be around people; especially people that need to (not only get thin), however, get to an over-all state of healthy. It’s good for the soul and motivation!

Fast Food In Moderation —

I love a good burger and pizza take out/delivery! I usually allow myself some form of fast food and/or (eating out) once per week. Once in awhile, twice per week. However, I try and plan for these days and maybe, workout more that day, moderately limit calorie intake, eat more protein that day, OR, all the above. The important thing here…(I’ve learned the hard way), DON’T starve on a particular day that you plan to eat out, or when eating foods not so healthy. That only makes you consume extra calories.

I hope you enjoyed a little bit of my journey; and also was able to benefit from my tips. <3

The Thing Is…

I refuse to HAVE to have knee replacements, hip replacements; or any replacements that are due to being over-weight. I also refuse to end up with diabetes, high blood pressure, or high cholesterol. This grandmother is going to be there for her grandchildren. In addition, I personally want those (golden years) GOLDEN! I sure hope that’s possible. 😉 lol

Thank you for reading! ~~ Share your thoughts please =)

A Grandma’s Tips for Starting Life on Your Own for the First Time

My entire life, my grandmother told me I could do whatever I set my mind to. Tori Bowie ~~ Via Brainy Quotes

Those of you who are young and about to begin the process of building your own life might be experiencing a wide array of emotions right now. In some ways, there is nothing more thrilling than carving your own path through life; in other ways, it’s one of the most terrifying processes you’ll ever take part in. In trying to find your footing, it’s normal to find yourself feeling lost, confused, or discouraged.

 

 

To help you make your way, here are some tips from folks who have had a few decades’ experience with living independent lives as adults.

Build Lifelong Skills to Properly Take Care of Yourself

While you may have built some of these skills (like doing your laundry and cooking basic meals) before moving out of your family home, it’s important that you dedicate some of your time to building other skills that you’ll use for the rest of your adult life. Make it a priority to become good at budgeting; learn how to alter or fix your torn or ill-fitting clothing; teach yourself how to do basic repairs around your home so you don’t have to call your landlord or shell out money for a professional every time something goes wrong. Reach out to people in your life who have skills you don’t, and ask them to teach you. You may not need all of these skills every day while living on your own, but you’ll be immensely grateful for the knowledge if and when problems should arise.

Take Your Finances Seriously

When you get your first full-time job, it might seem like you have more money than you know what to do with. It can feel all too easy to throw a little more cash toward buying new clothes, decorations for your apartment, meals out at restaurants, or tickets to the movies. But if you aren’t careful, and if you don’t allocate your funds properly, those little purchases can add up quickly, and you might find yourself surrounded by all of fun new things you bought as well as a small mountain of debt.

Make sure you’re taking care of your financial necessities first, like contributing to your savings, paying your monthly bills, and purchasing the things you actually need before any of your paycheck goes toward those fun purchases. You should also put a portion of your income each month toward reducing any outstanding debt, like credit card payments, paying off your student loans and, if necessary, refinancing those loans to lower the monthly cost.

Sure, building a financial cushion and consolidating your debt is a bit less exciting than buying Taylor Swift tickets, but practicing responsibility with your money is an essential part of being an adult and building a sustainable future for yourself.

Have Patience

When you’re young, it’s normal to want your life as an adult to begin immediately, to feel as though everything ought to fall into place perfectly and all at once. Unfortunately, as nice as that would be,
that is rarely how life works. It might take more time than you would like to get the apartment you want, to gain momentum in your career, or to meet the person with whom you want to spend the rest of your life, and that’s okay. While the world we’re living in now is an expectant one, and while people often demand instant gratification, real life doesn’t always meet our expectations or demands.

Life is often chaotic, unpredictable, and unfair, but there is always an opportunity to learn a lesson from your experiences, and every experience brings you one step closer to where you’re ultimately meant to be.

Believe in Yourself

As the Liberace quote goes, “Nobody will believe in you unless you believe in yourself.” And it’s true! You are your own best cheerleader and your own best advocate– to build yourself up in the eyes of others, you need to build confidence from within and make others see the talented, intelligent, self-assured individual that you are.

You have skills and knowledge to offer, and you need to carry yourself in a way that, without arrogance, relays that information to the people you interact with both personally and professionally. You deserve to take up space in this world, and you deserve to succeed in that space. Internalize those facts, and own them.

With hard work, determination, and persistence, you can do whatever you set your mind to!

Do What Makes YOU Happy

This, along with believing in yourself, is arguably the most important thing to keep in mind as you venture into the world on your own. You are your only true lifelong companion, so it’s essential that you
make your own happiness a priority, especially while you’re first starting to build your life.

Having the skills and the self-reliance to keep yourself alive is important, but so is making sure you’re actually living. Pursue your passions, whether as a hobby or a career; sing and dance as often as possible; take a road trip with your favorite people; eat chocolate every day, — do whatever you can, whenever you can, to cultivate joy. You’re young, so make the most of your youth, but don’t ever fully grow up (after all, you’re only as old as you behave).

Leave plenty of room in your world for silliness and laughter– the world is often a dark and serious place, and you must never allow that to consume your view.

Good luck starting out, and enjoy the ride!

The Benefits of Yoga and Meditation for Seniors (and How to Get Started)

 Written by: Harry Cline

While you may think of yoga and meditation as hippy stuff, you should seriously consider these healthy habits if you’re approaching or already in your senior years. There are an estimated 2.9 million people over the age of 55 who benefit from a regular yoga practice.

 

 

It’s a low-impact workout that emphasizes listening to your body’s needs, so it can help build strength, balance, and flexibility without risking injury.

 

Yoga and meditation can help with various problems including substance abuse and addiction. For many people in addiction recovery, having a good relationship with the physical self is just as important as the spiritual one. A yoga practice and regular meditation help relieve stress and promote mindfulness, which can make every day more enjoyable. Many people find that yoga and meditation help when it comes to pain relief and tolerance, as well. Additionally, yoga and meditation provide a sense of empowerment that maintains a healthy self-esteem.

 

What Is Yoga?

Yoga is a 26,000-year-old practice that originated during India’s Golden Age. Since then, it’s branched out to different ways of practice with their own specific intentions. Generally, yoga involves holding specific positions or “poses” while focusing and maintaining breath.

 

While in the West it’s often considered just as a form of exercise, there is actually a philosophy and spirituality to yoga as well

 

What Is Meditation?

Meditation is a mental exercise that allows a person to regulate their attention, calm the mind, and introspect. Regular meditation improves a person’s health, wellness, performance, focus, memory, creativity, and self-control. There are many ways a person can meditate.

The more common image we conjure up is of a meditating person being still in a seated position for a set amount of time. However, one can also practice a kind of moving meditation, including yoga.

Setting Up a Yoga or Meditation Space

Before you dive into yoga and meditation, it’s helpful to create a quiet, relaxing spacein your home where you can practice. The location of this space is up to you; however, it should ideally be somewhere away from distractions.

You might consider a spot with a view of nature, if possible, or include some green potted plants or gentle candles to help soothe your mind

 

Starting Yoga and Meditation as a Senior

Many people are nervous about starting a yoga practice, unsure if it’s for them. But yoga is for people of all ages. Most classes welcome anyone, whether you’re younger, a grandparent, or have certain physical limitations. You can do yoga standing up, sitting in a chair, or resting on your back. It’s all about finding what works best for you.

If you are completely new to yoga, it may be helpful to attend a class at a local studio or at your gym. When you go to a yoga class, the instructor can help you when it comes to refining your poses and encouraging breath.

Remember: Not all yoga classes are the same. Seniors should avoid advanced classes and heated styles like Bikram yoga.

Look for classes labeled as beginner and for styles like “hatha,” “Iyengar,” and “restorative” yoga.

It often helps to learn a few basic poses before you attend your first yoga class:

⦁ Mountain Pose, or Tadasana, is the foundational pose for all other standing poses.
⦁ Tree Pose, or Vriksasana, increases strength and stability in the legs.
⦁ Low Lunge Pose, or Anjaneyasana, releases tension and strengthens the hips.
⦁ Bridge Pose, or Setu Bandha Sarvangasana, keeps the spine flexible.
⦁ Legs Up the Wall Pose, or Viparita Karani, is helpful in relieving anxiety, mild depression, insomnia, digestive problems, varicose veins, menopausal symptoms, and tired legs.

————————————————————————————————-

While there are meditation classes you can take, it’s definitely not something you have to take classes to learn how to do. You can find guided meditations online through various sources. There are even apps that help you build your practice. However, all you really need is a nice, quiet space where you can sit undistracted and focus inward.

————————————————————————————————-

When you start your meditation, sit down on a cushion or pillow and set a timer to your desired amount of time. Keep your back straight and soften your gaze. It may help to light a candle that you can focus on. Bring your attention to your breath and allow yourself to simply release any thoughts or sensations you become aware of. The mind will wander — just bring your attention back to your breath when you start to notice it. Most importantly, be kind to yourself as you improve your overall practice.

Yoga and meditation are healthy habits that help parents, grandparents, and caregivers live better lives. Yoga classes are very helpful for beginners to ensure that they are doing the poses in a safe and effective manner. Meditation, however, can be started at any time. Start today!

*** Harry Cline is creator of NewCaregiver.org and author of the upcoming book, The A-Z Home Care Handbook: Health Management How-To’s for Senior Caregivers. As a retired nursing home administrator, father of three, and caregiver to his ninety-year-old uncle, Harry knows how challenging and rewarding caregiving can be. He also understands that caregiving is often overwhelming for those just starting out. He created his website and is writing his new book to offer new caregivers everywhere help and support.

5 Summer Motivators For Grandmas That Choose To Stay Fit and Active

Photo Credit: jules-robson [dot] com

My big fear with being a grandma is that my grandkids will forget me someday. I’m currently a constant presence in their lives. However, we just never know when that privilege could be taken away. I’m still going strong today, but we just don’t know when our number is up in this life, do we? 😉

This grandmother is working out daily and doing her best to stay (active) with her grandchildren. When she says (active), she means ANY activity that her grandchildren may be doing. It doesn’t always have to be sport related or a (moving) activity.

10 Examples

* A Simple Game of Catch
* Running
* Board Games
* Word Games — Such as; I Spy With My Little Eye Game….a FAVORITE with the grandkids. <3
* Reading
* Walking
* Drawing
* 4 Wheeler Riding
* Spelling B
* Baking – My Sweet Granddaughter LOVES to Bake!

So, the mind needs to be just as active. — I think you get my drift… =)

I sometimes get a little lazy and choose to not workout on a particular day…or even do my work online. Yes! It happens sometimes. =( lol

So, let’s kick it into high gear…

The Following Motivators Help Keep Me On My Toes – (most times). lol

1) Include Variety In Working Out

I workout daily…however, there are lots of other things to do that would add a considerable amount of variety. This includes speed walking, aerobics, strength training, crunches, lunges, etc…

2) Remain Social

This includes doing things with friends and family, and (for me), staying active with my YouTube content creating, and on social networks.

3) Keep The Brain Active

There are so many things we can do to keep our brain (and body) ACTIVE!!!
You can find quite a few of my ideas on doing just that below…

Good Tips On Keeping Your Brain Alive and Active At Any Age

4) Keep a Good Schedule With Household Chores

Now, just like ANYONE; I get unmotivated and kind of (not in the mood) for cleaning from time to time. But, for the most part, I usually keep my chores done up by tackling them BEFORE heading to my computer.

However, I need just a little bit of discipline (sometimes) in keeping my house good and clean. We all do sometimes, right?! YES, we do! =)

5) Eat Right

Consuming a proper diet is key to many, many things with remaining healthy; both physical and emotional/spiritual. There is actually a good article to read that shares some nice tips on this…as well as other topics. Stress is one of those. <3

Be Good to Your Spirit, Mind and Body During Stress – One Dozen Tips Plus

You may also find the article below interesting to go along with this topic.

Outdoor Summer Time Fun With Grandkids and Work Outs For Grandma

Happy Grandparenting and Stay Fit and Active Whatever You Do With Your Grandchildren! <3 <3

Changing Your Home For Your Own Well-being: How To Get Started

Photo via Pixabay by Engin Akyurt

“For the sake of our health, our children and grandchildren and even our economic well-being, we must make protecting the planet our top priority.” – David Suzuki

Shared Via Brainy Quotes

A person’s home is the place where they should feel the most comfortable and relaxed, where they can go after a long day and enjoy a little peace. It should be a safe place that caters to each individual’s needs, as well, but that means more than installing safety railings on the stairs and adequate lighting in every room; it also means thinking outside the box a little to come up with ways to make your home actively work for you and your well being.

For example, you might consider the air quality in your home, or how efficient it is when it comes to utilities. For children and the elderly, this is especially important, as having poor air quality or uneven temperatures can be a health issue. No matter how clean your home is, it’s still possible to overlook things such as furnace filters, clogged dryer vents, air conditioning units with leaky hoses, or moldy bath mats, all of which can contribute to problems if they aren’t taken care of.


Your home environment should be your safe haven,” says Nesochi Okeke-Igbokwe, MD – over email. “It should be where you retreat to after a long busy day, and the state of this environment essentially has major bearing on your overall health. If you live in an unclean, unsafe, or unkempt home, such an environment will undoubtedly negatively impact your health, and this can ultimately lead to dire health consequences.”

Keep reading for a few tips on how to change your home for the better

Bring In Some Green

Every interior space can benefit from a little green, so invest in some plants to place around your home. Not only will they give an instant facelift to any room, they’ll provide clean oxygen and may even help with reducing stress. Just make sure you don’t buy varieties that are poisonous to pets or children, and keep them out of reach just in case. 😉

Avoid The Chemicals

Using eco-friendly cleaners around your home will not only help the environment, it can also keep you and your family healthy. Switching out chemicals for simple cleansers — such as vinegar and hot water for floors, tile, and appliances — can really help jumpstart better habits and keep your home safe, especially for young children and pets.

Double-Check For Safety

Making your home a safe place is important, and this means making sure there are working smoke detectors and carbon monoxide alarms, especially if you have gas appliances or heat. Change the batteries regularly and check to make sure they’re working properly for every new season. If you’ve recently bought a new home, this is one of the first things you should do after moving in; if you’re unsure of how to check them, consult your local fire department. Read on: here for more tips on what to check out after you move in.

Get Rid of The Carpet

It may be something you’ve never even considered: the fact that your carpet could be making you sick.

The truth is, no matter how clean you keep your home, there are tons of allergens, pet hair and dander, and bacteria that can live in a carpet and cause all kinds of havoc on your family’s health.

Consider tearing it up in favor of hardwood or tile for much cleaner air.

Make Your Own Space

Having your own space can be difficult if you have a large family, but it’s important for your mental health to be able to get away sometimes. Create your own space; take an unused room and turn it into a quiet place to read or make art, or use the garage as a place where you can work out. Find a way to make it your own and retreat there when you need a mental health break.

Remember that you don’t have to break the bank to make positive changes; many of these things can be done with little to no expense. Talk to your family members about your plans so that everyone is on the same page, and think about the best ways to make your home work for you.

21 Good Tips For Keeping Your Brain Alive And Active At Any Age

I have Alzheimer’s in my family, so this post is for me too. And, let’s face it; everyone could use tips for staying active to be as healthy as they can be. My sweet mother had the disease, as well as my grandfather. So, I always have that nagging warning in the back of my mind.

The Lord took mom with breast cancer before the Alzheimers got too bad. I’m definitely a believer in things always happening for a reason. <3

This blog post isn’t JUST for Alzheimer’s patients; however, I have good points for those people that do have it. 😉

This blog post is also excellent for grandmothers! Me, me, me! LOL

The second half of the tips shared, I didn’t elaborate. I left that up to YOU. Chime in with your thoughts! 😀

Right off the top of my head, I can come up with an awesome tip to start.

1) Surround yourself with vivid colors! This can be in the form of your home and decor, your clothing, places, and events that you frequent, painting, and things that you study or even websites you visit often. It can be anything you see, any place you go, or….these vivid colors can be ANYWHERE. Going on a vacation in the fall season would be excellent for viewing all kinds of pretty fall colors! =)

Remembering that vacation, that piece of clothing, that building, that website, for example; would be a lot easier than remembering something that`s rather boring.

2) Consume pomegranate! It can be in the form of seeds, juice, fruit, extract, and powder. According to Authority Nutrition – Health Line dot com, pomegranate is one of the healthiest foods that you can eat. Studies have shown that it’s great for a host of diseases, your physical performance, and the elderly.

Also, pomegranate CAN (help) against Alzheimer’s disease.



3) Surround yourself with good friends! Socializing with human friends is awesome for giving your brain a boost. In fact, it’s all-around good for (ANYONE at ANY age).

Studies also show that healthy friends and relationships help support emotional health. Notice how much better you feel after getting out with friends on a particular day or evening! 😉

If you don’t get together with humans on a regular basis, you can start to volunteer somewhere, visit your local church or community, go to bingo halls, sign up for purple hat, or join a gym. Just a few ideas there. Although, it’s important to remain close with your family members and friends. See them often and don’t lose touch!

4) Start coloring! Say hey, only kids color! Well, have you noticed all the adult coloring books floating around the stores?

Yes, it’s true! Pay attention to the trends in coloring. Many adults now have coloring books and are creating many beautiful works of art. Some are going beyond coloring and engaging in drawing and painting. In fact, charcoal drawing is quite popular today.

Also, the outlet of letting your mind go and just creating is remarkably therapeutic! Paying attention to all that you create can sharpen your mind considerably. This can also help with self-esteem.

5) Go back to school! Excellent for keeping the brain active. Also, this one is definitely for any age for people that quit school or the elderly that are retired and suddenly have extra time on their hands.

6) Do some type of activity/workout on a daily basis! Enough said! lol

7) Take daily multivitamins with good nutritional quality! Some people don’t like or simply do not believe in them. That’s fine; however, there are some good vitamins and herbs out there that CAN help with memory and energy.

8) Participate in games! These games can be card games, trivia, video games, and memory games.

9) Try to get some ZZZ’s during the day! Get in a good habit of taking a nap every day. You may not realize just how beneficial this can be with memory and general brain function. A daytime nap will benefit you almost as much as your sleep during the night. It only takes 30 minutes or less.

10) Get interested in word find books, crossword puzzles, and jigsaw puzzles! I’ve always liked the word find books and of course, jigsaw puzzles. Crossword puzzles, not so much.
These activities consistently engage and stimulate the brain.

The Following Tips Are For My Readers and Subscribers To Elaborate…I’d Love To Hear From You! 😀

11) Eat a well-balanced diet! You will also need to eat sugar and fats very moderately.

12) Engage in Meditation and Deep breathing!

13) Invest in a pet!

14) Read every day!

15) Don’t drink alcohol!

16) Start crocheting or knitting daily!

17) Study a foreign language!

18) Don’t smoke!

19) Try a variety of foods when dinning out!

20) Keep your weight in check!

21) Start each day with a great attitude! Beleive in yourself!

Cheers to a healthy, happy life! <3

My Experience With Bullying in the 60’s and 70’s

I thought so many things on July 27th, as I sat down to write this blog post…

Yes! I took a (brief) detour while writing it! Well…I had a lot of thoughts to process. 😉 Lol

First of all, what I have to say in this post is all genuine; as I have no reason at all to lie about any of it. All true to life. Believe me….I sure wish it wasn’t! (I’ll also, add, I don’t want any pity…Nuff said)!

The MOST important perspective of my complex, inner, ramblings this morning was that my son thrived as an adult (without) any mental damage from bullying. Thank The Good Lord! =) That was my greatest fear! He was bullied briefly on the school bus; however, my son didn’t have room for bullying in his young school days/throughout his life; and still doesn’t! =)

The main point for this post is to provide some experienced facts about myself just so you can know and understand me a little better (as a person just trying, STILL… to find my way in this UGLY world).

But first, let me take a trip down (memory lane)…from VERY EARLY in life. 🙁

Unfortunately, I DON’T remember my early days in school (as happy). There was a particular incident that took place that snowballed ……into what ???! 😮

As I analyze my thoughts to try and remember the occurrence that started it all; my mind goes back to what (should have been) a favorable learning experience and a happy occasion.

I was excited about dance class. I’m not quite sure what grade we were in. 1st or 2nd grade?? I also am not sure exactly (what kind of dance class) it was. Although, I do remember wearing leotards; black ones. At least, that’s what they were called back then. LOL

I bet you can’t guess what took place?? Hmm, well; maybe you can, I don’t know.

This (little girl) left a big puddle in the gym. UGH!! 😮

Please, let me explain…

I remember… (not too far) into the class, I realized I had to go to the restroom.

Ahh, well, alrighty…now you know. The cats out of the bag; or should I say BLADDER! 😮

lol

I tried very hard to let that teacher know of my predicament many, many times, with a wave and a little dance of my own. But did she listen? This woman wasn’t giving me any relief ANYTIME SOON!

NADA! NO! SHE DID NOT LET ME GO!

Hello!! Was she plotting my (unlucky) future?? lmao!

The next thing I remember was the warm, wet feeling trickling down my legs that made me look down at the ever increasing puddle on the floor. It was only then that I actually realized what I’d done.

I know, gross, but keeping it real!

Well, that dance teacher was very much in the wrong! Just getting that out there! 😮

After that ordeal was over, I recall the long walk to the restroom to change clothes. The teacher had another student…(I think) she was much older? Not sure. I’m 56; my memory seems to be fading! Lol —- walk me there. How’s that for a run-on sentence?

I’ll just briefly go over a couple more occasions that I’d like to forever forget.

1) Now, I don’t recall how the conversation started or even what it was truly about. I just remembered the long walk home.

The girl that seemed to be the head of the bullies said to me, “You’re nothing but a pile of s***!”

The following one has a little more guts to it.. lol

2) In math class, don’t remember the grade. However, that’s not what’s important. I remember bits and pieces of this…

During what (should have been a well-constructed classroom), most of my class mates were throwing spit balls, and other things (that I can’t remember) toward me. Maybe some laughing in the midst.

Now was it (really) the entire classroom? More than likely not. Although, it sure felt as much.

Let’s put it this way…it was definitely enough to cause a ruckus while strolling the halls of the school, for sure.

More Importantly…

The (substitute) teacher didn’t have anything to say; nor did she DO anything. She just gave me a smirky smile as I looked at her with, (please help) tattooed on my forehead. lol — I do remember the class was Mr. Greenwald’s. He was the funniest teacher I’ve ever known. He made the whole school laugh; and that was his mission…other than teaching math class, that is. lol – That in itself was an awesome memory! I did a quick search and found a photo of him. However, don’t feel at liberty to share due to copyright. 😉

3) Not to mention (and in general), being made fun of for not making all the hits, catches, reps; or whatever while in gym class and on the playground That’s the true reason why I don’t like to participate in sports…(other than power walking and aerobics) 😉 lol

The latter is so common; I know. However, it didn’t make it any easier! Furthermore, it all stacked up to how I’ve felt about (myself) for most of my life.

I dreadfully recall these memories of bullying as; humbling, ugly, disgraceful, abusive, slanderous, degrading, disrespectful, painful, hurtful, and quite life-changing.

I truly could go on and on; however, I won’t bore you with more. I think you get the picture! LOL

You know…way, way back in my mind (for many, many years), I would always question myself how I could let the world know how bullying truly affected me. Go into detail, like in this post. Did I want (or NEED) to go as far as actually naming names? Naah!! That minor detail is rather pointless.

I wrote this blog post as if I were THE ONLY person on the face of the earth that was mindlessly bullied. Well, let me fill you in on something….that’s exactly what it felt like. The pain was real, and it scarred me for life.

In hindsight, I’m somewhat grateful for having gone through it; (only due) to the fact that it helped mold me (somehow) into the person that I am. I also, realize this post may be pointless to a lot of people. I honestly needed to write it; if not for anything else but, for some sort of therapy. Aka; focus on internal daemons for clarity and peace.

Thank God for the wisdom from my years of living…that I truly understand the (real) reason behind children, (or adults), that feel the need to bully others.

I’ll just leave it at that…

Thank you for reading! =) <3