Grandparenting Tips and a Wish List From The Heart (Future)

As I sit here at my desk…11:50 AM after, drinking my coffee, paying some bills, doing 3 loads of laundry, and a few other chores for the day, I began to think about my grandchildren; as I often do. <3 <3

I began to contemplate ahead to their future. This thinking pattern had me dwelling about prom, high school, dating, arguments with Mom and Dad, romantic summers and makeup for my granddaughter, girl problems for my grandson, career decisions, car purchases, iPhones, relationships, marriage, bullying,…well, I think you got all those pictures swarming in your heads.??

At least, I hope! lol

 

So, what did all this brainstorming about the (particular) contents above accomplish? What about that (wish list)? And furthermore, those tips??

Well, let’s back up just a bit… Let me tell you something! =)

BOTH my grandkids are as smart as tacks beyond their years!

I strongly believe that (they) are quite secured with powerful wills and fearless spirits.

I also believe that they have spent their share of time thinking about their future and what they will be doing as adults; especially my sweet grandson. My grands are 8 and 5, and growing way too FAST!!! 🙁

Considering (career decisions), I’ve heard my oldest grandchild say, “I want to be a (crop farmer)” and my youngest one say, “I want to be a (vet)”

Both of those choices have a colossal of possibilities, and even MORE aspiring choices in relation to those fields.

Grandma isn’t worried in the least, because she knows they will be good at anything they decide as careers.

However, their choices could change, and change again, and YET, again before they commit! My grandchildren could even spread their wings and explore multiple advancements. They are young and have quite a long time to consider the variables.

Now, getting back to that “wish list” before I lose my train of thought here…

Well, my thoughts are all over the place!! Having said that; it is NOT my intention to make this post essentially on (career picks). 😉

This leads me to consider my health more and more. Yes, Grandma certainly needs to be, and stay healthy in order to be around when all these things take place for sure!!!

So, what’s a wish list have to do with all this?

My wish list is the assorted things that I want to be able to talk about with my grandchildren.

More to the point; I want (them) to WANT to talk about those things (with me). To share tips with them, my thoughts, and my advice.

Important Note: I do realize that I’m not an expert when it comes to grandparenting tips. 😉

*** ~~ While this is ultra important to me; I also realize it may be too tall of an order to become a reality.

In addition, Their parents NEED to be present and have their opinions, their thoughts, their own tips and advice known when discussing those important topics.
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All these elements will mold these (2) little people into responsible adults in tomorrow’s society…(whatever that may be). LOL ~~ With how things are going in this world today; it’s hard telling what our society will be like. 😉

Personally, I hope Jesus comes back by then…seriously.

I still have a wish list regardless. My grandkids could talk with me, AND Mom and Dad also!

The Updated List Consists Of: (I want my grands to seek advice, and tips about the following subjects from me).

1) Makeup and skin care advice: My Granddaughter

Well…of course, this would be on top of the list! LOL <3 While, I sure hope she goes to her mom for beauty advice as well. Her Momma is beautiful BTW! <3

2) Girl problems: My Grandson

Now, I can already see him going to his dad for advice about this; that’s for sure! However, I do hope that he will come to me for a tip or two. 🙂

3) Prom: My Granddaughter

I would LOVE to get the chance to make her dress. I used to sew A LOT!! I even made my dress for my parent’s 50th wedding anniversary party. I still don’t know what happened to that dress! 🙁

4) Bullying: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I’m not the bullying expert at all!! However, since I’ve been through it myself, I do hope I get the chance to give some advice…(if the need arises). I certainly hope it doesnt! <3<3

5) Career advice: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I do hope they both have their decisions made way ahead of time. With (most) kids, they end up changing their minds a dozen times; and that’s ok. That is the norm. With that being said; I would be ecstatic if they would pop their heads in the house and seek a little advice!

6) Grandchildren: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I certainly hope I get the chance to lend some tips and advice along the way. More IMPORTANTLY; <3 I hope I'm still living when my great grandchildren are born. <3

A Grandmother Can Dream Can’t She?!

What are your thoughts?

Thank you for reading!

My Experience With Bullying in the 60’s and 70’s

I thought so many things on July 27th, as I sat down to write this blog post…

Yes! I took a (brief) detour while writing it! Well…I had a lot of thoughts to process. 😉 Lol

First of all, what I have to say in this post is all genuine; as I have no reason at all to lie about any of it. All true to life. Believe me….I sure wish it wasn’t! (I’ll also, add, I don’t want any pity…Nuff said)!

The MOST important perspective of my complex, inner, ramblings this morning was that my son thrived as an adult (without) any mental damage from bullying. Thank The Good Lord! =) That was my greatest fear! He was bullied briefly on the school bus; however, my son didn’t have room for bullying in his young school days/throughout his life; and still doesn’t! =)

The main point for this post is to provide some experienced facts about myself just so you can know and understand me a little better (as a person just trying, STILL… to find my way in this UGLY world).

But first, let me take a trip down (memory lane)…from VERY EARLY in life. 🙁

Unfortunately, I DON’T remember my early days in school (as happy). There was a particular incident that took place that snowballed ……into what ???! 😮

As I analyze my thoughts to try and remember the occurrence that started it all; my mind goes back to what (should have been) a favorable learning experience and a happy occasion.

I was excited about dance class. I’m not quite sure what grade we were in. 1st or 2nd grade?? I also am not sure exactly (what kind of dance class) it was. Although, I do remember wearing leotards; black ones. At least, that’s what they were called back then. LOL

I bet you can’t guess what took place?? Hmm, well; maybe you can, I don’t know.

This (little girl) left a big puddle in the gym. UGH!! 😮

Please, let me explain…

I remember… (not too far) into the class, I realized I had to go to the restroom.

Ahh, well, alrighty…now you know. The cats out of the bag; or should I say BLADDER! 😮

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I tried very hard to let that teacher know of my predicament many, many times, with a wave and a little dance of my own. But did she listen? This woman wasn’t giving me any relief ANYTIME SOON!

NADA! NO! SHE DID NOT LET ME GO!

Hello!! Was she plotting my (unlucky) future?? lmao!

The next thing I remember was the warm, wet feeling trickling down my legs that made me look down at the ever increasing puddle on the floor. It was only then that I actually realized what I’d done.

I know, gross, but keeping it real!

Well, that dance teacher was very much in the wrong! Just getting that out there! 😮

After that ordeal was over, I recall the long walk to the restroom to change clothes. The teacher had another student…(I think) she was much older? Not sure. I’m 56; my memory seems to be fading! Lol —- walk me there. How’s that for a run-on sentence?

I’ll just briefly go over a couple more occasions that I’d like to forever forget.

1) Now, I don’t recall how the conversation started or even what it was truly about. I just remembered the long walk home.

The girl that seemed to be the head of the bullies said to me, “You’re nothing but a pile of s***!”

The following one has a little more guts to it.. lol

2) In math class, don’t remember the grade. However, that’s not what’s important. I remember bits and pieces of this…

During what (should have been a well-constructed classroom), most of my class mates were throwing spit balls, and other things (that I can’t remember) toward me. Maybe some laughing in the midst.

Now was it (really) the entire classroom? More than likely not. Although, it sure felt as much.

Let’s put it this way…it was definitely enough to cause a ruckus while strolling the halls of the school, for sure.

More Importantly…

The (substitute) teacher didn’t have anything to say; nor did she DO anything. She just gave me a smirky smile as I looked at her with, (please help) tattooed on my forehead. lol — I do remember the class was Mr. Greenwald’s. He was the funniest teacher I’ve ever known. He made the whole school laugh; and that was his mission…other than teaching math class, that is. lol – That in itself was an awesome memory! I did a quick search and found a photo of him. However, don’t feel at liberty to share due to copyright. 😉

3) Not to mention (and in general), being made fun of for not making all the hits, catches, reps; or whatever while in gym class and on the playground That’s the true reason why I don’t like to participate in sports…(other than power walking and aerobics) 😉 lol

The latter is so common; I know. However, it didn’t make it any easier! Furthermore, it all stacked up to how I’ve felt about (myself) for most of my life.

I dreadfully recall these memories of bullying as; humbling, ugly, disgraceful, abusive, slanderous, degrading, disrespectful, painful, hurtful, and quite life-changing.

I truly could go on and on; however, I won’t bore you with more. I think you get the picture! LOL

You know…way, way back in my mind (for many, many years), I would always question myself how I could let the world know how bullying truly affected me. Go into detail, like in this post. Did I want (or NEED) to go as far as actually naming names? Naah!! That minor detail is rather pointless.

I wrote this blog post as if I were THE ONLY person on the face of the earth that was mindlessly bullied. Well, let me fill you in on something….that’s exactly what it felt like. The pain was real, and it scarred me for life.

In hindsight, I’m somewhat grateful for having gone through it; (only due) to the fact that it helped mold me (somehow) into the person that I am. I also, realize this post may be pointless to a lot of people. I honestly needed to write it; if not for anything else but, for some sort of therapy. Aka; focus on internal daemons for clarity and peace.

Thank God for the wisdom from my years of living…that I truly understand the (real) reason behind children, (or adults), that feel the need to bully others.

I’ll just leave it at that…

Thank you for reading! =) <3

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The Basics That Children Learn In Grade School – Is Home Schooling a Better Option For Your Lifestyle?

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When I started to write this blog post, I had no thoughts about discussing homeschooling. It just goes to show you that a blog post can change gears in a blink of an eye while writing. lol 😉

What does a child basically learn in the first few years of grade school? Is it worth it to send them off to a public school? Would your child be better off if they were homeschooled?

Homeschooling certainly has been in my thoughts while imagining our grandchildren starting a public school. A public school is not painting a pretty picture in my eyes; I can tell you that for sure! In today’s day and age, there is a growing population of children that ARE being homeschooled; and with very good reason.

This world has been turned up on its head with what’s been going on in the schools today…and not only schools. These type of crimes are going on all around us; literally everywhere! Kidnappings, shootings; and a whole slew of other things that I dare not mention here on the blog. It’s enough to make you vomit at the sheer thought of all the madness!

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In hindsight, I remember so vividly when my son got on the bus the first day of school. I just didn’t feel like a good Mom while walking back up our l-o-n-g drive way after the school bus drove away. By the time I got back up to the house, the tears were falling like the rain on a profoundly cloudy day.

I was so worried he would be bullied just like I was in school…I mean he was so little at tender, school-age. I wanted to drive our son to school myself.

However, he was thrilled with excitement about getting on that big yellow bus!

Of course, that’s all he saw was that big bus, and not the big picture that Mom was looking at! LOL

Life royally sucked that day! I felt bad as a parent and a Mom for not taking him (at least the first day). Life would certainly be a whole lot better if bullying was the ONLY thing to be concerned about today. Now, we worry if our children will be returned to us at the end of any given day!

Let’s Discuss What is Actually Taught in Grade School

* Motor Skills – Jump roping, hopscotch and throwing a ball around will for sure teach your child (for the most part) proper motor skills. I realize there is a bit more to it than the 3 things I’ve listed above; however, I think mommies and daddies could handle those tasks, and choose to homeschool.

* Socialization – In order to learn to socialize and get along with others, there needs to be other children around. That issue could be solved fairly easily with trade-off-neighborhood-homeschooling days. There comes a time in every person’s life where they’ll have to connect and make friends where Mom and Dad are not around. It’s called, “Independent Socialization.” Everyone needs to learn to get along with everyone, make friends, and just generally “make their own way” through life. It’s much better for everyone involved if each person learns proper socialization skills and also, properly apply them.

* Manners – Same thing with proper manners; this could be taught by mommies and daddies or perhaps an aunt or uncle, or even grandparents. It’s almost like “socialization;” however, people need to learn to be polite and peaceful with everyone they come in contact with, and not just with friends. Learn to say, “thank you” and “please,” and so forth.

*Self Esteem – Self esteem is taught from a very early age…from infancy even. When your baby takes his fist step or roles over, clap and praise them for it! Learn to praise your children for every single thing that they do or accomplish. Children need this praise and feedback from their parents or guardians in order to feel like they are acceptable and they are also a good child. They need this acceptance from YOU!

* Compassion for Others – We all learn to have respect and compassion for other human beings. Let’s face it, we all want to be treated fairly, correct? We should be taught to treat others like WE would like to be treated ourselves. We are all humans, and we all like to be liked, and treated with compassion.

Kindness is needed as well

For Example: If you saw someone out in the cold without a coat, wouldn’t you want that person to be warm? If you had a coat that you were not wearing, it’s a kind gesture to let them wear the coat. This is also just plain compassion for another person, other than ourselves.

* The Basics in Math and English – We all need to learn the basics of math and english. English is required so we can all communicate with each other without difficulty. If you come from a background where you don’t speak English, you should learn it. Same with other languages. If you surrounded yourself with people that only spoke Spanish, then yes…learn Spanish so you can communicate freely.

The basics of math is required in life as well; whether or not we don’t like to think so. Counting money and purchasing both involve math. Basic ingredients in a recipe even involves math to measure out each ingredient properly. We are always counting, aren’t we? How old we are, how much medicine we take, how many flowers to plant in our yards, how many pairs of jeans or socks we have, and even sheep we count when we can’t sleep. lol

So see; math IS definitely required with living. I think we’ve all heard this: “Why are we taught math in school? We don’t need it or use it.” We use math every single day of the week, so we all must learn at least the basics!

If you intend on homeschooling, it is highly suggested that you take courses in math and English; as when your children approach 5th or 6th grade, your children’s needs go beyond just the basics.

Unless you are a whiz at both. 😉

* History and Science – History and science are 2 other requirements for schooling and learning. I skimmed by with both! LOL…I wasn’t the least bit interested in either one. Taking courses with these is firmly a suggestion. However, if you are a genius as with math and English, then you have no worries. lol

* Physical Education – Yes, PE is a bit more than just motor skills that I’ve mentioned above. PE teaches us about being healthy and active while enjoying life. However, it could be and IS taught at home. In PE, we learn to play sports games. Soft ball, volleyball, soccer and even square dancing…which I hated! lol Oh and tumbling I hated that with the passion!

As parents or guardians, we all have the ability to teach at least the basics of all these elements to our children, (for the most part). However, if you are mentally impaired, of course that is the exception.

Homeschooling is indeed an invaluable option. It’s all a personal preference on how our lifestyles are and what we choose to be acceptable and doable. If you desire to homeschool your children, you have technology to thank for looking up all kinds of information and tutorials with teaching.

Of course, there is always the option of hiring a private teacher; again, personal preference. Your children WOULD be safer learning at home rather than in a public school. It’s a personal choice. A choice that more parents are considering as a safe way to educate their kids with peace of mind. 🙂

I would love to hear your thoughts and tips about homeschooling!

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Armpit Farts, Whistling, and Dancing Shoelaces

The first few weeks of the new school year are gone. My six-year-old grandson wasn’t sure he even needed to go. After all, he did that last year. But after a lot of ranting, whining, and complaining, he gave in. He really had no choice.

The night before school started, my grandson and daughter dropped off his school supplies and met his new teacher. That went well. The next day, I picked Patrick up after school. That, too,went well. To Patrick, there was nothing new. The routine from last year was the same this year. He wasn’t worried any more. He knew he could handle the school year. That was all I wanted to hear.

As I always do, I asked Patrick how his first day went and he was almost giddy. He told me he shares a class with some of the kids from last year’s kindergarten class. His teacher is nice. Patrick even saw some of the kids from last year’s class on the playground and played with them during recess. Things were looking good. He even got a reward for not talking–candy. This year had real potential. Things began to change during the second week.

The second week started out on a good note too. Patrick was getting dressed, eating breakfast, and getting ready for school without dragging his feet. At the end of the day, he talked about the kids, about what he had for lunch, and about what they were doing in class. He got to see the bunny in science, reconnect with his music teacher, and meet his new PE teacher. Things were going well and humming along. Then it happened.

As little boys who are discovering their bodies often do, the other six-year-old boys in class decided to play a tune using their armpits. Patrick has been perfecting this talent all summer and was thrilled to discover that the other little boys in his class had as well. They decided to put on a concert for their classmates. To their dismay, they learned that armpit farts, or concerts of this nature, are not allowed in the classroom. That’s okay. Patrick plays for us at home when the muse strikes him.

Next, Patrick rediscovered the discipline policy used by the school. If a child does not make the correct choice, they have to flip a card. For Patrick, the torture comes in the possibility that a slip will go home and tell the parent that he had a lapse in judgment. It’s okay if grandpa and I know. We just talk about it and move on. Patrick’s worry is that his mom will find out. There will be consequences at home. That happened a few times last year. To Patrick, this is extreme torture. Something he would rather not deal with. But being a six-year-old boy, he sometimes makes the wrong choice. That has already happened.

Patrick forgot that it’s not a good idea to whistle in class while the teacher is trying to teach. For that, he flipped a card to yellow. He says he wasn’t paying attention. He says he doesn’t know what his teacher wanted, but he wasn’t doing it. That was okay. He learned. And the slip didn’t go home. His card was turned to green at the end of the day.

So, in just a few days Patrick learned that armpit farts are a talent better shared after school and that whistling is best practiced during recess. Every afternoon I hear what color the card was for the day. Things were going well until Thursday. Then it happened! Patrick turned his card to RED. When Patrick got in the car on Thursday, The first thing he did was check for the slip. It wasn’t there. A reprieve!! Patrick was relieved. Mom didn’t have to know.

I asked Patrick why the card was turned to red. He said it was because he was making his shoelaces dance while he was waiting to get his Friday folder. He says they were untied and instead of tying them, he decided to make them dance instead. Patrick admits that this was a lapse in judgment on his part. He doesn’t know what compelled him to make his shoelaces dance, but he says he was bored just sitting there waiting to be called up for the folder.

He says the kids around him were enjoying the performance but apparently, his teacher didn’t. He wasn’t on task. He wasn’t paying attention. This wasn’t his first lapse in judgment for the day. He had already flipped his card earlier. For Patrick, the relief came in knowing the card would be turned back to green, he would have another chance, and Friday was a day to rethink. It was a day without school.

I hope these stories brought a smile your way. I truly love my grandson. His reasoning skills amaze me. I love listening to his daily experiences and discussing his trials and lapses in judgment with him. We sometimes forget that these little guys are indeed little. I don’t worry that Patrick will continue to have lapses in judgment. That comes with the territory. I relish those lapses. They are fodder for some great stories. I hope you see your grandchildren, children, or yourself here. I know I do.