Tips On How To Be A Fantastic Grandmother

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There are great grandmothers, and there are those who, even if their intentions are pure, make life harder for mom and dads. Are you a first-time grandmother who wants to be remembered by the family as the best grandparent ever? Here are some ideas that you may want to consider.

Volunteer as babysitter sometimes

Being a new mom or dad is hard. It takes commitment for 24 hours a day, but that doesn’t mean the parent can’t take a break. If you have time in your hands, visit your new grandson or granddaughter and let the parents have their alone time. Tell them to hit the road and have fun every once in a while or take a long, nice bath without having them worry about the kids crying.

Lead by example

Grandparents should lead by example if they want to teach parents how to do parenting properly. Show them that the kids should always be important no matter how tough times get. In other countries that are ravaged by war, parents always think of their kids first by seeking aid from charities that provide free food and education. If you’re comfortably living in a free country, there’s no reason not to prioritize kids. A child’s education, health, and happiness are very important so don’t forget to provide them this while offering them love and support along the way. Help the child do his or her homework, feed them healthy food, and make them happy by doing little thoughtful things for them.

Give positive encouragement

Being very critical of new parents can be detrimental to their progress. As such, when they do something wrong, don’t correct them by shouting or making them feel like they just did the worst mistake a person can make. Instead, lead by example and suggest ways on how to improve their parenting style. You’ve been there, and you’ve done that so they will listen to you. And when they do something right, praise them. Encouragement and positive feedback goes a long way.

How to Avoid Common Problems When Grandma Provides Childcare

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I very seldom post an entry from an unsolicited source, or from content that has already been posted elsewhere. However, I found this post enlightening on a growing grandparenting issue. More and more grandparents are raising their grandchildren these days. And what a GRAND job! I thought the post would benefit my readers. 🙂

From Nannyjobs.org

For many families, Grandma is the first childcare choice. Parents love the idea of a family member whom they know and trust caring for the kids. But there are challenges that automatically come with this childcare option. Here are some questions parents should think about before having Grandma care for their kids.

What type of relationship do each of you want?

Defining the relationship is the first step in making it work long term. One side may want an informal arrangement, where it feels like the grandparent simply visits often rather than provides formal care. In those cases, the primary relationship doesn’t change, it just expands a bit to include this new way of interacting.


The other side may want a more formal childcare arrangement, where the parent takes on the role of employer and the grandparent takes on the role of employee. Both sides must want the relationship to develop in the same direction, otherwise problems will quickly come up and the arrangement simply won’t work. Having mismatched ideas around this issue can also damage the core relationship, so this is a particularly important issue to tackle early on.

Where will Grandma provide care?

For some parents who want an arrangement close to nanny care, it’s important that the child is cared for in his own home. The parent wants Grandma to….

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Fun Things to Do with Your Grandchildren in Chicago

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Whether you’re celebrating National Grandparents Day in September, taking an annual family vacation or just going for a quick weekend trip, Chicago offers plenty of family-friendly attractions, lodging and restaurants. Not sure how to get started planning your trip? Check out this list of the Windy City’s best kid-friendly attractions, places to stay and places to eat.

 

 

 

Where to stay


With so many to choose from, finding the best hotels that are a perfect fit for both kids and grandparents can be a difficult task. Check out this list of great, family friendly Chicago hotels to start your search.

The James Hotel: Located in the heart of the city, the James Hotel joined forces with renowned kid-friendly artist Paul Frank to create a welcome kit around the famous Julius the Monkey. At check-in, kids receive Julius the Monkey themed books, games, pajamas and coloring pages. Rates for the James Hotel start at $180 per night.

The Drake Hotel: Known for its representation of Chicago’s glamorous 1920s era, the Drake Hotel is a national landmark and a great place for grandparents with young granddaughters. The hotel offers an American Girl Place package that comes with a personalized welcome letter, a travel-sized bed for her American Girl doll and free access to the hotel’s entire on-site library of American Girl books. Rates start at $159 per night.

Key Lime Cove Waterpark Resort: If your grandkids love the water and you’d rather stay a little ways outside of the big city, the Key Lime Cove offers the perfect waterpark getaway. With a tropical theme and an indoor water park that features plenty of waterslides to go around, your grandkids can have days of fun at Key Lime Cove.

Where to eat

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Super Dawg Drive-In: Give your grandkids a look into the past with this affordable and delicious family-friendly drive-in. Featured on the Food Network and in the national bestseller 1,000 Places to See Before you Die, this drive-in serves up classics like hot dogs, burgers, shakes and fries right to your car window.

The Rainforest Café: If you could use a break from being in the heart of the big city, you can escape it all without even leaving. Chicago’s Rainforest Café features a restaurant-meets-rainforest wildlife theme that your grandkids are sure to love. The innovative and fun-filled menu offers items like dinosaur-shaped chicken and a volcano dessert.

The Choo-Choo Hamburgers on Wheels: Allow your grandkids the rare opportunity to play with their food when you visit to the Choo-Choo Hamburgers on Wheels restaurant. This kid-friendly favorite serves its hot dogs, cheeseburgers or grilled cheese sandwiches from a toy train set. The customized Kids’ Menu is sure to include all of your grandchildren’s favorite foods.

Where to go and what to see

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Shedd Aquarium: If your grandkids are fascinated by underwater life, Shedd Aquarium is a must-see. A great venue for all ages, Shedd Aquarium features a breathtaking Aquatic Show with flipping dolphins and dancing belugas. The 4-D experience has special seating designed to maximize the theatrical experience and includes sensory elements like wind, smells and bubbles.

Navy Pier: As one of Chicago’s most famous landmarks, the Navy Pier provides the perfect opportunity to spend a day on Lake Michigan and enjoy attractions like the 15-story tall Ferris wheel, retail shops, the Family Pavilion and even cruises.

Buckingham Fountain: The largest water fountain in the world, Buckingham Fountain is free year-round and puts on scheduled water shows all day long with color-light and water shows several times each evening.

Always be sure to plan your trip and book your hotel well in advance. Create a budget, stick to it and be sure to factor in items like possible cab fare or souvenirs. If you plan to visit a lot of Chicago’s main attractions like the Field Museum, Skydeck, Shedd Aquarium, John Hancock Observatory and more, consider investing in a Chicago City Pass that lets you visit all of the top attractions at discounted rates.

About The Author

Danielle blogs on behalf of Sears and other brands she uses. She tries to visit Chicago at least three times a year and has become a professional at finding and booking family friendly Chicago hotels. She loves Chi-town’s food, but hates finding parking.

The Legacy of Grandmothers

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I was very fortunate to know my great-grandmother up until I was twelve years old. The memories I have of her are scattered but everything I remember is consistent in that she was a strong and faithful woman. From her belief in our Lord, her work ethics, and the way she cared for those around her my memories attest to her character. As I became an adult I would continue to see the faithfulness and love of my Great-Grandma Susie from the stories that those that loved her would tell me.

I remember as a child going to her home once or twice a week with momma. We would spend a few hours there and while we were there it was as if we had taken a trip into the past. This was in fact in the sixties so when I talk about the past I mean the long past. She was born in eighteen hundred and eighty two. Her house smelled of cinnamon apples which she often cooked up for us when we came over. Her kitchen table was one of those aluminum legged, hard white top tables from perhaps the forties and the chairs were the shiny, plastic covered padded type that made little bare legs stick when you sat too long.


Her house was small and well kept. She had a bird in a cage on her small back porch which my oldest brother would torment. She was tall and always wore homemade aprons with huge pockets and always had a hankie peeking out. My height only came up to her waist and I recall so much more about her aprons and her hands than the etchings of her face. She was stern but you knew how much she loved you. She had a pump sewing machine which was used a great deal because she made most of what she wore, along with things for others including quilts. I also recall a large picture of Jesus on her wall and another of an angel watching over some children.

When we would visit I would carry my dolls with me. When I came into the house with a doll at some point during our visit she would take me to the sewing machine and pull out a swatch of some kind of pretty material. She would then sit down and make me a new dress for my dolly. I was always fascinated when she did this, I was young and it was amazing to watch. When I got much older it was even more amazing to me since I am anything but a seamstress. How someone could do this with just a glance and no pattern is outstanding. The dress always fit dolly perfectly.

She let megive her sewing machine a try but when my brothers began to play with the pump mechanism our sewing time was over. She had jars full of buttons and I loved looking at them and sometimes I would string them up for a necklace. I could play with the buttons and my dollies for many hours, but not the boys.

When my brothers would start to get bored and began to aggravate her bird she never said a word. She lovingly went to the kitchen and started to peel an apple or get out the bread and butter to make a piece of buttered bread with sugar. Sometimes it was a piece of lettuce with sugar or a raw potato with salt. She would make something for each of us and say, “Now, go out on the back porch and eat this.” We would willingly go and begin to play in the back yard.

Out in the yard was what I believe now to be a single car garage separate from the small house. But grandma had turned it into a small apartment to earn extra money. She was very resourceful and frugal; she had to be. She was alone when I knew her and taking care of herself. She was in her seventies when I met her. She had my grandmother later in life because she tried having children for a long time and was not able. They finally decided to adopt a boy and within a few months found out she was pregnant with my grandmother.

The first occupant of the little apartment behind the house I believe was a cousin of my grandma. She was a very unpleasant woman with a wart on her nose and a pointy chin and we truthfully thought she was a witch. Even though mom assured us she was not a witch her behavior told us different and we knew mom had been deceived by this woman! The second occupant was also a relative I believe but a much sweeter woman. She would invite me in and tell me stories and talk to me about my dolls. I loved spending time with my great-grandma and with this lady.

From the stories I have heard from my grandmother (my great-grandma Susie’s daughter) and my mom her life went something like this. Her mother died when she was fourteen and she had a younger sister by the name of ArizonaTerritory. From the stories passed down it seems they were passing through ArizonaTerritory on a covered wagon when she was born, thus the name. We called her Aunt Zoni and she told the most amazing stories. Anyway, Grandma Susie, at fourteen years old, was sent to live with another family and help them with work around the house because her dad could not take care of both of them after the death of her mother. Essentially she was earning her food and board by working for these people.

At one point she started working for Burlington which at the time made overalls and jeans. They had huge sewing machines and needles strong enough to go through thick denim. I can only imagine how strong you had to be in your upper arms to sew jeans eight plus hours a day. The stories go that she ran one of those needles through her finger at some point. *Shudder* As you can see she was accustomed to hard work. At some point she married and got some help but in her later years was again alone and depending on the Lord and His gift of resourcefulness.

My grandma and her three children went to live in great-grandma’s small home for many years when they found themselves homeless because my granddad’s alcoholism had taken over his life. Mom said that great-grandma made it all work in her small home and they always felt safe and were well fed. My mom tells me how great-grandma would heat up bricks, wrap them, and put them at their feet for warmth in the winter because they depended on one wood stove for heating.

In the summer there was one large fan in the window for cooling the house. Mom and I were just talking about this yesterday because it was so hot. I was wondering how they used to do it. Of course she lived in Kansas and not Texas but it was still hot in the summers. I asked Mom how they slept in that heat. She said they would go to bed and lay there until about eleven or eleven thirty before they could sleep; by then it had gotten a little cooler. I can not even imagine.

My own grandma was born in nineteen hundred and fifteen and she was a hard working woman just like great-grandma. Sometime during WWII grandma began working in a factory. It was the Sunshine Biscuit Factory and she was on the cracker assembly lines. They did not have a car so the bus was taken everywhere. Even my own mother, before they went to live with great-grandma, was boarding the bus with bags of laundry to get the clothes washed while grandma was off at the factory.

There are three generations of very strong women in my life that have passed down their strengths and their love for God to me. I am so thankful for these women in my life and the stories from the past that make us who we are. I am doing my best to pass these beliefs, strengths, and stories on to my children. My own daughter was blessed to have known her great-grandma Naomi until she was twelve, my son was only five but he remembers so many things about her. And now they are blessed to have their grandma Darlene, my mother, living with us. My daughter is twenty-eight and my son is twenty-one and she is a huge part of their lives at seventy-seven years old. What a blessing to have this legacy of love passed down through all these years!

About The Author

Rachel is an ex-babysitting pro as well as a professional writer and blogger. She is a graduate from Iowa State University and currently writes for www.babysitting.net. She welcomes questions/comments which can be sent to rachelthomas.author @ gmail.com.

Godly Grandparents – Guest Post and Some Scriptures For The Week

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From the time my children were born my mother has been giving them the best thing she had to give. Jesus. She has taught them Bible stories, read the scriptures to them, and taught them to memorize passages of the Bible. She knew and still knows there is no greater gift you can leave with your children or grandchildren than the Word of God. Because “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” – Hebrews 4:12 (NAS)

My mother had the privilege of leading both of my children to the Lord. She watched my children because it was necessary for me to work. I hated every minute away from my babies but I was and am so very thankful that my mother was there to care for them in my absence. Both of my children have so many fond memories of growing up with their Grandma. The Lord was in everything she did. It did not matter where they were or what they were doing, she always kept the Lord at the center of what was going on.

Not only did she teach them about Jesus but she was and is an adventurous woman. She taught them to work at home but she also took them on so many adventures. She took them to gardens, parks, lakes, hills, and everywhere she could think that would bring adventure and joy. Mom hardly ever goes the same way twice; she is always looking for a new route or a new road she has not yet traveled. We live in Texas not too far from some very nice hills for climbing, well, they did. They went to the ocean to fish, the lakes to boat, and the forests to hike.

Mom is pretty knowledgeable about all things nature. She taught them about the birds, the trees, the plants, and at the same time she was teaching them about the maker of all these things. She sees our heavenly Father in everything she does because He is her Lord and she knows He is the only one that anyone can always depend on. “Stop regarding man, whose breath of life is in his nostrils; For why should he be esteemed?” – Isaiah 2:22 (NAS)

When my daughter was four my Mom taught her Psalms 27:1-6 and she was able to quote it word for word whenever anyone would request it. She loved memorizing the word of God. My Mom also taught my son who is seven years younger these same verses. He was a little bit older before he got it down but he has it to this day. She taught them other verses but these are their favorites. My son who is now almost twenty-one was just talking to me about this yesterday with fondness and reiterated how much he loves and appreciates his Gram. My daughter is almost twenty-eight and this scripture is still always on her heart. Listen to the words of this scripture and imagine them in the hearts of young children.

Psalm 27:1-6 (KJV)

The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?
2 When the wicked, even mine enemies and my foes, came upon me to eat up my flesh, they stumbled and fell.
3 Though a host should encamp against me, my heart shall not fear: though war should rise against me, in this will I be confident.
4 One thing have I desired of the Lord, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to enquire in his temple.
5 For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock.
6 And now shall mine head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me: therefore will I offer in his tabernacle sacrifices of joy; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the Lord.

To this day my son prefers the King James Version of the Bible because that is the Bible his grandma taught him to read. He says he understands it better. I myself love the King James Version of the Bible because I too was raised on it as my “Bread”. We think that small children will not understand so we try to simplify things but the Word of God and His Holy Spirit make everything clear to those who want to know Him. I am so grateful to my mother who instilled this love in my children’s hearts. I too taught them the scriptures but in my absence my Mom never skipped a beat.

In this world of confusion and busyness living in Jesus is the one true and most wonderful gift we can give our children and grandchildren to hang on to. His Word is the truth and the truth will set them free, His Word is life, His word is the victory that overcomes in this world we live in.

“And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” – John 8:32 (KJV)

“It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.” – John 6:63 (KJV)

“But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.” – 1 Corinthians 15:57 (KJV)

The blessing of having godly Grandparents extends way beyond the times children spend with their grandparents. Of course the Lord will stay with them for the rest of their lives but they also carry a part of that grandparent with them forever. Having a legacy like that is not only a wonderful one for the grandparent but it leaves a mark on the child and encourages them to be someone that others see Jesus in. The role of grandparent can be the greatest role of your life. Even if you do not feel like you were a great parent because you were not well prepared at that time in your life it does not mean that you cannot make an impact on your grandchildren’s lives. And you can still be a great influence in your children’s lives as well.

My own children have noticed the changes in my life as they have gotten older. I always tried to share my faith in Jesus Christ with them but I did not always have the stability in life that I should have to back it up. It is never too late and as you grow in Christ your life will show it and you will become a greater witness to your families because they will see you becoming more and more like Jesus. Never give up and never surrender to feelings of inadequacy or unpreparedness when it comes to things of the Lord. The most important thing you can do is to stay in the Word of God so that He can fill you up and teach you each day how to overcome things in your life that you on your own do not have the power to overcome. He will then give you the words to say and the Light that shines on those you love.

I cannot express my thankfulness enough to my Mom and what she has given to me and to my children. There can often be no greater influence than the influence of a godly grandparent in the lives of children. You do not have to be a preacher or Sunday school teacher to give them Jesus’ love and His Word. Share with them your love for all things of the Lord and He will use it to reach your grandchildren. Show them His love by sharing your lives with them. Take time to have adventures and show them your heart openly and they will hold on to it for the rest of their lives. God bless you in your endeavors!

About The Author

Jack Meyers is a regular contributor for www.nannybackgroundcheck.com. As a detective he wants to spread the knowledge of terrible things that can happen when people don’t fully verify the credentials of a caregiver or any employee. He also writes for various law enforcement blogs and sites.

Baking With My Granddaugh​ter – Guest Post

This is a compassionate story by Marjorie Newton about baking along side her granddaughter. 🙂

“Gramma, Gramma. Are you awake?
Gramma, Gramma, I want to bake!
I want to make some cookies…or cake…

Right now! Please, Gramma! I wanna bake!

Slowly my eyes open searching for the clock…almost 7 a.m. and, heavens, a little female creature peeks around my bedroom door to see if I’m awake. Now, of course, anyone knows that 7 a.m. is a great time, maybe the best time, to make cookies, even if you’re not quite awake. But if you have a little four year old, red haired, curly headed granddaughter insisting on making cookies NOW, it is definitely the best time. So, I roll out of bed not resisting this little eager child as she leads me from my bedroom. What a sight I must be in baggy pjs and uncombed hair. She doesn’t care how Gramma looks. We are headed for the kitchen to get the baking action started for the day.

Baking has played a huge role in my life. As a child, whenever my mother baked, I stood on a chair next to her at the kitchen counter. Watching her every move, I begged her to let me crack the eggs, blend the sugar and butter together, sift the dry ingredients together, and mix it all in the bowl. In spite of the clouds of flour and the puddles of milk on the counter and floor, I think she enjoyed teaching me the various stages of creating a cake.


The exception to the fun, I am sure, were all the times I found it important to check the batter. The frequency I dipped into the mixture with my little sticky fingers had to be frustrating for her, but if so, she never mentioned it. She was very patient with me. By the time I was nine, she suggested I bake alone, either because she really felt I was ready for my solo flight or she had had enough batter tasting.

The tradition of baking and batter sampling continued with my own daughter as she took to baking as obsessively as I did. Like I had done, she stood next to me at the counter begging to help, especially when it was time to crack the eggs. As I remember, she was much more insistent about doing it “by myself” than I had been, so at a younger age I allowed her to take over the baking process with her own exuberant style. Her creations were new and not found in any recipe book. Fearlessly she unleashed her wild imaginative baking techniques which of course included testing the batter often…so often in fact little was left for the pan and the oven. The final product was camouflaged and oozed with icing, leaving her father and me to guess just what she had made. No matter….whatever it was, naturally, was delicious.

So, now this morning the family baking tradition is again unleashed. I am in the kitchen at 7 a.m. with a large mixing bowl, measuring spoons, wooden mixing spoons, and a cookie sheet spread before me on the counter. I guide my little granddaughter’s cookie making enthusiasm as best I can, but she has her own ideas.

And so I hear, “I can do it myself, Gramma!” and she does as she cracks the eggs with a flair getting them in the bowl and not on the floor. This is her favorite part of the process so it always gets done first even if the recipe doesn’t require it first. The chocolate chip cookie mixture is tossed into the bowl also, some of it missing its mark, but I am still told,

“Gramma, I can do it myself!”

Water is poured into a measuring cup she now claims as her own and poured precariously into the bowl. With a grand flourish she stirs vigorously with her own wooden spoon saved for these occasions. But never, never fear, she does not forget the very necessary sampling of the batter time and time again. With already sticky and often licked fingers, she begins to form the cookies on the sheet.

Suddenly, she stops, pauses a second or two, and then with a huge sigh says, “Gramma, I’m bored. You finish the cookies. I want to garden. I want to plant flowers! Common, Gramma! Now!”

The cookies are abandoned. She drags me to the patio where pots of fresh potting soil wait to be planted with flower seeds….and….and….but I’m afraid our gardening adventures are another story for another day.

Article By Marjorie Newton

4 Quick Tips on Being a Better Grandparent

 

 

 

 

Grandparenting Tips…You can follow the best tips out there about being a good grandparent, however, are those the right ones for you? Every child and grandparent is different. We are all unique individuals =)

Always follow your gut instincts. Of course this is true for general parenting as well. However, for grandparents, they have a little more experience, (especially if they’ve raised a big family). A grandparent’s instincts are usually good ones. For me personally with raising just one child, I’ve learned a world of knowledge through my experience. Would I have done things differently? You bet, for a lot of things, I would and some others, I would not.


So Grandmas, lean on your experience and always trust your own gut instincts. For the most part, they usually end up being the right choices.

Listen to your grandchildren. I mean, REALLY listen to them. Spend quality time with your grandkids and take extra special time and listen to their opinions and feelings about life, their self esteem and also how they react to you and what you have to say. And most importantly, respect THEIR feelings.

Respect your children’s wishes regarding discipline. Hey, this is a huge one! I don’t care how much you have to bite your tongue and swallow everything that wants to come out of your mouth when it comes to disciplining your grandchildren.

Have a talk with your kids and always, always respect their wishes about various discipline issues. And spanking happens to be one of those things. Times have sure changed since I’ve raised my child. For most of the new parenting generation, spanking is not a disciplinary choice. There are various alternatives to spanking. You really need to have a heart to heart conversation with your kids, and follow their wishes.

Reach out to other grandparents. This can benefit both you and your grandkids. Joining a grandparent’s group is one way of reaching out to other grandparents that have been through it all. Participate in conversations and take notes. You also may come away from some of the meetings with a new friend or two.

A grandparent’s job is sometimes challenging, just as normal parenting is. There is a learning curve to both parenting and grandparenting. Above are just 4 general grandparenting tips. I’m sure you can find more by following them, and also doing a search on Google.com.

Tammy is a passionate blogger. You can find more grandparenting tips and articles by Tammy Here

Half a Dozen Important Things I’ve Learned As A New Grandma

 

 

 

 

Grandparenting duties are a blessing to me. I know there is a little handsome and smart boy who needs my help with raising, disciplining, and YES, loving him!! It’s an honor having the title of Grandparent. However, I’ve learned so very much from being one. I would love to share them with you all 🙂

 

However, first I want to say that all Grandmothers deserve a medal of honor! 😉 lol

 

Below are 6 things I’ve learned about being a Grandmother

1. Bite that tongue – I’ve been doing a lot of this! As I’m sure a large portion of Grandparents do this. It’s only nature that most Grandparents would like to continue with what they knew per se, 25 to 30 years in the past.

You will find out rather quickly that you want to blurt out various things to your grandchildren and your kids while enjoying and disciplining your Grands. And I’m not talking about bad things; I’m talking about all those old fashioned rules and ideas that us Grandmas still hold dear to our hearts! Times sure have changed! 😉

2. Certain expectations fall by the wayside – You are in for many, many surprises being a Grandma. What you expect to happen doesn’t AND what you don’t expect DOES happen! lol And everything in between. Boy was I wrong with what I had in mind after my first grandbaby arrived. All children start to develop their little personalities in the womb. While some challenging behavior can be corrected once your grandchild is 1 1/2 years old to 2 years. However, remember that most of their personality is forming before they are born.

I also expected to be able to do my online work while watching my grandson full time. Didn’t happen! I even had the cradle that my Dad made for my son in my office. Didn’t happen! My little guy constantly wanted to be entertained. I ended up watching him for approximately 6 months and then Mom gave up her job and talked my son into letting her stay home full time. My Daughter-In-Law wanted to stay home with him from day one!

Just a warning, if you’re reading this article, and you are in the same boat I was in, be prepared.


3. It’s much easier to babysit your grandchildren at their homes – Wow this is for sure 100% true! Well, think about it; your grandkids have all their toys, bed, favorite foods etc at their home. To disrupt that, it may rock the boat somewhat when it comes to their behavior. They also sleep much better when at home. I have learned this many times over! Some kids just don’t sleep good when away from home. However, some do. Every child is different.

4. Patience is still a definite virtue – My mother was the most patient person I’ve ever known. She always spent time with me when I needed her. Practicing patience is something that should be on all parent’s wanna-be list. It should be your number one priority. Children didn’t come with convenient and simple instructions. Life is not that simple. As new parents; you will need to spend time with your kids and bond with them. Spend quality time with them and teach the same things that were taught to you…only give your kids a lot more indepth teachings along with long-suffering patience. Your children will appreciate and remember this!

Well, you know that all that holds true for grandmothers. When your Grands are screaming “Mamma and Dadda!” You need to be patient with them; as with any other behavior.

5. Never forget that your grandchildren ARE NOT actually your children – That may be challenging for some grandparents to read or hear. Well, in a way they are. However, us Grandparents don’t have the final say about various rules, discipline, religion, and so many other things. We need to sit back and let Mom and Dad do their own thing. Although whatever the situation; some grandparents create their own recipes for disaster and step in too far. I DON’T want to be that type of Grandma! My kids are quite intelligent adults, and our grandkids will be nothing short of smart, compassionate and responsible adults.

6. Being Grandma isn’t always easy – Grandma, you’re in for a wild ride with your new role! You will get your feelings hurt more times that you can count. This is especially true when they get to the age where they know that Mom and Dad is indeed their Mom and Dad. And they know it when they leave. Grandma, are you able to calm your little one and soothe the hurt? Sometimes you can and sometimes you can’t. This is what I’ve learned myself. I sure wish I had a dollar everytime I’ve heard, (through real crocodile tears) “Where Mamma and Dadda at??” 🙁

When I first became a grandmother, I daydreamed about my little guy sleeping peacefully in his crib that we have in our home. Well, that sure didn’t happen. Maybe a couple of times. However, most of the time, he ended up sleeping with both Amma and Pappa. Don’t you just love the “Amma?” =) lol

Another thing that I was looking forward to was taking my grandson to various places…out to eat, or to the grocery store. Guess what!? That has yet to happen. Us Grandparents have NOT taken him anywhere by ourselves yet.

Through all the crying and sleepless nights, I’m proud to say that becoming Grandma is still the best experience I’ve had throughout my life. 🙂

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Parenting and The Terrible Two Tantrums – Akka Pity Party

This goes out to all Grandparents out there as well, even though it’s parenting advice in general, grandparenting may be a full time job for you. So hopefully this article will benefit many. 🙂

Ahh, the famous, terrible two tantrum (pity party) lol

You’re at Walmart and your child is high-pitch wailing because he wants a specific toy. We’ve all been there! However, HOW we react to these violent, squirmy temper tantrums and the consequences we use is what matters.


When you’re at home with your child, how long do you let your toddler cry or scream? I say…let them throw a hissy fit and cry, kick and scream; for the majority of the time anyway. There will come a time where your child will be exhausted from the consistent wailing he or she is doing. Their voice will also get hoarse. LOL

Here’s the thing, IF you know they are not sick or running a temperature, or they are not hurt anywhere, or their diaper doesn’t need changing, and you know that they are not just screaming due to needing a nap, this parent/grandparent says, It’s not going to hurt them one bit. And they will soon figure out that you won’t jump every time they cry out for not getting their way, your child will eventually give up on testing you. And that’s exactly what they are doing! These days children are generally born more intelligent than years ago. They DO know exactly what buttons to push. 😉 It’s comical in a way when you think about it.

I’ve seen my grandson display a pretty bad pity party, and all the while watching his mom out of the corner of his eye; just to see what kind of reaction he will receive. And I sometimes can’t help but chuckle to myself. Now I DO know that’s definitely the WRONG thing to do, however like I said; I can’t help myself. And SHAME ON GRANDMA!! lol 😉

With all that said, I think you’re definitely onto my first tip; at least you should be!

#1 Let them cry their pity party out. Now, this should be the case for anywhere you may travel with your children. However, it’s rather embarrassing and just draws negative attention if you’re in a crowded store, at church, (or where ever you happen to be where there is a lot of people around). Your child will soon figure you out and know they won’t get their way

#2 Don’t laugh, and Grandma, that means ME!! When you laugh; that of course makes it 10 times worse! That should be common sense of course! lol

#3 Reward your children when they DON’T throw a pity party. And this doesn’t necessarily mean buying them candy or toys. You could take them out to their favorite place for lunch, or have them pick out the menu for dinner that night. Stickers work too! 🙂 Remember, kids LOVE stickers.

#4 Reverse psychology. This works sometimes when you’re at home with the kids. Especially while they are young. While they are crying, pretend to cry yourself. You MUST be a good actress with this technique Mom! LOL I mean, give it all you’ve got. And then see what happens. This worked for me when my son was very young. It also worked (for just a couple of times) with my grandson. He is VERY smart! When I pretended crying, he immediately stopped the wailing, (STRAIGHT FACE….LOL) and looked at me and said, “HUH?”

Well, you know what I did, don’t you? YES, I laughed, not good Grandma!! 😉 And guess what? My grandson was NOT laughing. He went back to his pity party. That goes to show that it DOES work if you can keep a straight face. 😉

#5 Ahh, spanking? Now this day and time, spanking is just un-heard of and also a moral sin in the eyes of my daughter-in-law! lol She bluntly says, “I just CAN’T be the bad guy!” However, she does use time out and that does indeed work for her…sometimes. 😉

There are a lot of parents that think that spanking is just wrong. They say, “You MUST NOT hit a child!” Well, from my old fashioned perspective, a good spanking on the back side is not considered hitting. It’s considered discipline. Now I’m not talking about spanking them so hard, your hands end up black and blue, or you break a blood vessel…that IS wrong! I feel a spanking doesn’t hurt them at all, unless it’s just a love pat that brings about laughter from your child while they run from you. And all you parents KNOW what I’m talking about! These love pats are totally ineffective. LOL

Time out IS an alternative to spanking however.

I’d love to hear other Moms and Grands opinions and perspectives on all the above! TY 🙂

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Grandparenting Support For Caring For Grandchildren

It’s becoming more and more commonplace. I hear of grandparents giving up their vacations, me time, and not to mention those (golden years), as some people call it and refers to retirement…all for their grandkids. It’s very sad thinking about how many parents neglect their own children. Or even more staggering; the population of women who get pregnant that are too sick , too young, or not financially fit to properly care for a child.

So yes, more and more grandmothers and grandfathers are stepping up to the plate and taking over for the sake of their grandchildren. Are you among those grandparents? If so, indeed your life has changed tremendously, and in some cases; not for the better. Your health will play a big role on your new responsibilities, as well as your bank account.

So what can you do as a grandparent to make life easier? Below are 4 of the most important things you will want to take into consideration.


Health – The first thing you need to think about is taking good care of yourself. Simple scenario, if you don’t take care of yourself, how will you take care of your grandbabies? Practice good healthy habits. Eat right, get plenty of exercise and try and turn in early at night so you get the rest you need for the following day.

Support – Join a support group so you can share your concerns with others that relate to the same issues as you. This in itself can be a great help when it comes to your spiritual and mental self. A support group can often give you various perspectives on the many issues that surround your new day to day life and parental responsibilities. Also, if you have a loving and supporting spouse that is going to participate in caring and disciplining, that will most definitely be a big plus.

Parenting Class – You may not think this would be required, especially if you’ve raised more than one child. Trust me, a refresher parenting course may be just what you need. Things have changed a great deal in the past 20 to 30 years. When we were expecting our first (and only so far), I attended a class with my daughter-in-law, it was quite the enlightening experience. I could not believe just how very much I learned in that one afternoon.

Religion – God should certainly be the center of our lives, in everything we do. If you believe in God, prayer and fellowship with others in your community will be a tremendous help. Remember, God takes care of those who help themselves. Many think that phrase is in the Bible, however, it is not. It’s a famous quote from Greek mythology. Pray to Your God and teach your grandbabies to pray.

On the financial end of things, you may be able to get some financial aid. I’m sure it will depend on your income and various things. Check the following page for details Here

Above are just 4 things (the most important IMHO) to think about if you decide to take over parenting your grandchildren. It certainly won’t be easy. Take into account the tips above and also take life day by day and don’t worry about tomorrow. Worry only yieilds stress. 😉

Article By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is passionate about her Grandmother status and loves to share photos, advice, Grandparenting Articles and Tips

Tammy also has been successful in the work at home industry for many years. She is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. She offers free job leads for the job seeker, as well as other work at home resources, work at home articles, tips, and more at http://www.onestopwebemployment.com