How to Avoid Common Problems When Grandma Provides Childcare

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I very seldom post an entry from an unsolicited source, or from content that has already been posted elsewhere. However, I found this post enlightening on a growing grandparenting issue. More and more grandparents are raising their grandchildren these days. And what a GRAND job! I thought the post would benefit my readers. ๐Ÿ™‚

From Nannyjobs.org

For many families, Grandma is the first childcare choice. Parents love the idea of a family member whom they know and trust caring for the kids. But there are challenges that automatically come with this childcare option. Here are some questions parents should think about before having Grandma care for their kids.

What type of relationship do each of you want?

Defining the relationship is the first step in making it work long term. One side may want an informal arrangement, where it feels like the grandparent simply visits often rather than provides formal care. In those cases, the primary relationship doesnโ€™t change, it just expands a bit to include this new way of interacting.


The other side may want a more formal childcare arrangement, where the parent takes on the role of employer and the grandparent takes on the role of employee. Both sides must want the relationship to develop in the same direction, otherwise problems will quickly come up and the arrangement simply wonโ€™t work. Having mismatched ideas around this issue can also damage the core relationship, so this is a particularly important issue to tackle early on.

Where will Grandma provide care?

For some parents who want an arrangement close to nanny care, itโ€™s important that the child is cared for in his own home. The parent wants Grandma to….

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Going To Be Grandma Again!

 

 

 

Yes! I’M GOING TO BE GRANDMA AGAIN! I had to type it out big and bold so I could see it really good. It’s just so hard to believe cause this grandma stuff is happening so, so fast…however, I love it!! ๐Ÿ™‚

I have a grandson, and now God, I’d really like a granddaughter so I can dress her up in frilly clothes and do just girl stuff with. That would be so very cool! But if You see fit to give us another grandson, that would be cool too! =)

Not sure why I’m praying at this late notice…it’s already set in stone!! LOL ๐Ÿ˜‰

SERIOUSLY, I really don’t care what we get…just as long as the baby is happy and healthy

Here’s a little something I put together, hope you enjoy it. lol lol

A grandmother prays for her grandkids

A grandmother holds, cradles and rocks

A grandmother sews her grandkid’s Halloween costumes…It’s coming! lol ๐Ÿ™‚

A grandmother plays soccer and baseball with her grandkids ๐Ÿ˜ฎ HUH??

A grandmother plays hide and seek with her grandkids

A grandmother shows no favoritism

A grandmother teachers her grandkids how to bake cupcakes

A grandmother cries when she’s by herself because her grandson loves Papa more than Amma…no not really lol ๐Ÿ˜‰

A grandmother never says “no” about keeping her grandkids overnight

A grandmother teaches her grandkids how to say, “I love my Grandma and my Grandma loves me.” ๐Ÿ™‚

A grandmother kisses the hurts and boo-boos

A grandmother looks way beyond the outbursts and temper tantrums

And most importantly — she loves unconditionally! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

 

He Calls Me Amma! :)

 

 

Awww, so cute. My grandson is talking away now. I sure wish I hadย $1 every time he has said “Dadda!” LOLย  He’s always wanting Daddy. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

However, he calls me Amma now. Isn’t that sweet??!! I love it. =)

 

 

You know what he does now? lol

 

When he’s at the house, he will hide behind our couch and then calls out “Amma”ย  so I can “go find him” of course!!

 

 

Daddy has been playing Hide and Seek with him. ย He’s such an awesome dad. =)

 

When Daddy was in his early teens, Amma sure wondered exactly how he would be as an adult. Hmm, was there ever any question???? LOL

 

YES!! I just have to admit that!! ANOTHER LOL…

 

 

I guess we all go throughย it, and it’s just human nature to wonder. ๐Ÿ˜‰

 

Here are a couple of pics I wanted to share below

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sacked Out With Grandpa and Grandma

Isn’t this pic adorable? That is my grandson and his mommy getting a little shut eye.

This post will be leading up to a controversial topic. As I go forward with it, you will realize what the popular topic/subject is, and why I’m posting about it. As controversial as it seems, it’s about bonding, growing up, and somewhat about letting go. ๐Ÿ˜‰

There’s nothing sweeter than snuggling up with your newborn baby and getting some rest yourself at the same time. It’s part of the bonding process as babies grow and learn.

However, there comes a time when parents, and grandparents as well may or may not draw the controversial line as children reach a certain age and their sleeping arrangements. Ahh, you may now begin to see what this post is leading up to.

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Here is the meat of the story…and a little later on, my personal opinion. I’ll give you the chance to add yours if you like.

Approximately two/three weeks ago, our grandbaby spent the better part of a weekend with us, while Mommy and Daddy went on a little getaway. All parents need those, now don’t they?!! LOL

I was so excited about the weekend and enjoyed our whole Saturday with him. We had the greatest time with play, laughter, and lots of fun. ๐Ÿ™‚ It really was a perfect day and we enjoyed having him.

We had kept him overnight once before and that was a good experience. He woke up once at 3AM and had part of a bottle and right back to sleep. ๐Ÿ™‚

However, this particular Saturday night didn’t go as smoothly! lol ๐Ÿ˜‰

Grandbaby was restless the whole night, maybe missing Mommy and Daddy, or just wanting to be in his own crib, not sure. Don’t you wish little babies could actually tell you why they are discontented??

The night actually started out good (for about an hour). Then he sort of half woke up, LOL, and was just really, really restless. Was crying and sort of not, all the while somewhat crawling and rolling in the crib.I could see his eyes were closed the whole time. Well, I was able to pat him back to a comforting sleep for about another hour.

The restlessness went on, off and on for about 4 hours. I had made up my mind to sleep in the spare room where his crib was, I just didn’t trust me sleeping in another room. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Well of course, Grandma was not getting any sleep herself, and was very tired from the previous day.

OK, Now baby was up at 1 AM, wide awake and was eagerly wanting out of the crib. Another diaper change, I thought that’s all it would take to get him back to sleep. Wrong! He was sitting up laughing and wanted to just play with his toys. Hmmm…Grandma tried her best to coax him back to sleep with a bottle and tried rocking him. He DID NOT want any part of it. LOL

Sooo, Grandma let him play for about 30 minutes, and he started getting tired. Then it took me forever to get him back to sleep. I’d say it was about 3 or 3:30 when he was finally back in his crib again. :/

20 minutes later, he was up again and this time standing up in the crib just watching me. He was sort of fussing but not too bad, about 30 minutes or so. So, I lay there with one eye open and one eye shut, watching him just hoping he’d end up going back to sleep. No such luck….and about that time Grandpa came in and asked “What’s wrong with my little buddy?”

Well that did it, he was laughing, wide awake, and was sooo happy to see Grandpa in the wee hours of the morning! Grandpa picked him up and said, “Let’s try something.” He started in our room and I knew what he had in mind. ๐Ÿ˜‰

By this time I was totally exhausted! LOL And was willing to try anything, and of course despite my reservations, he ended up between us. He did lay there for about 15 minutes or so and was keeping an eye on both of us and making little funny noises. I was mighty slap happy about that time, and was laughing myself. lol…

Grandpa rolled him over on his side and began patting his back gently and then off to sleep he was. Finally! I guess I got about 1 hour of sleep that night/morning! lol…He woke up at 5:30 and that’s about the time he normally gets up.

So, I rolled out of bed and we started our day with a bottle, a diaper change, and cartoons. ๐Ÿ™‚ I sure didn’t need to be rocked to sleep the following night!

Now…here is my question. What percentage of parents, and grandparents let’s their children sleep with them?

I know with my own son, to my recollection…he was always a good night baby and normally it was not an issue with him.

However, I do have an opinion. I don’t think it’s a bad idea for parents to let their children sleep with them…as long as it doesn’t become a habit. When it becomes a habit, then yes! It will be a big issue and a hard habit to break. ๐Ÿ˜‰

What is your opinion? I’d love to hear your thoughts about this.

Thanx! ๐Ÿ™‚

Happy Birthday Sweetie!

It’s your first birthday…WOW!! How time flies. ๐Ÿ™‚

Seems like just a few months ago we were all still at the hospital waiting for your arrival!

You are 1 today and you have learned sooo much, and you are so very smart…OFF THE CHARTS smart. Way Too Smart For Me (sometimes) lol

Tons of Love, Hugs, and Kisses…Your Grandma

Grandma’s not proud is she??!
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Happy Birthday Sweetheart!!!

June 28th 2010

Fine Motor Skills For 6 Month Old Babies – 4 Things You Can Do

My son walked when he was 9 months old, and he was ahead of everything concerning fine motor skills. Does this mean it will be the same with my grandson? I think my grandbaby is a whole lot like my son in so many ways. He has caught on to a lot of things really fast. For a nearly 6 month old baby, I’d say he’s already ahead of his game. Wow, I can’t believe he will soon be 6 months old! It literally seems like yesterday that he was born.

There are certain things you can do as a parent and grandparent to encourage motor skills. Things that can be done daily while watching your little ones grow. I know my son and daughter-in-law gave me “detailed instructions” when they left their baby boy in my hands. And I do try my best to follow them each day.

Below are 4 things you can do to encourage motor skills

1. – Place baby on floor on his back and gently bring his left foot and right hand (opposite of each other) together for 10 reps at a time. Then do the same with the other side. This helps with coordination.

2. – Tummy time is important for strengthening baby’s head, shoulders, and arms, and also fun to watch how he progresses day by day. Place baby on his tummy for 20 to 30 minutes each day. You can place one of his toys in front of him about 2 feet away to encourage crawling.

3. – Stand baby up on your lap or on the floor. This will strengthen his legs and feet. I know for my grandson, he gets extremely excited and bounces up and down when I do this. It’s a joy to watch him. This of course helps encourage the motor skills of walking.

4. – Sit baby in a cushiony boppy securely to encourage sitting on his own. It’s been a lot of fun watching my grandson while in this wonderful invention…the boppy. I have taken quite a few pictures while watching him sit and balance himself more and more each day.

What Kind of Grandparent Do You Want To Be?

Prior to becoming a grandmother for the first time, I gave serious consideration as to what kind of grandmother I wanted to be. Having had three living grandparents in my life from birth to my early twenties, I was exposed to three very different grandparenting styles, and to be honest, a couple of the styles weren’t always that admirable. So with a mind shaped by 23 years experience of being a grandchild and a total of 43 years life experience, I sat down and created a list of grandmotherly traits that would suit my personality and encourage healthy, loving relationships with my grandchildren. My list is small thus far as the girls are still very young, but it’s been a good foundation to work from. I’m certain my list of traits will be a work in progress for many years to come.

*  I will not be the grandmother who always has a “surprise” in their purse each time they visit. Gift giving will be saved for birthdays, holidays, and the occasional special event. (I want them to want me, not things.)

*  I will teach my grandchildren to garden and, more importantly, to have respect for nature and all its wild critters.

*  I will invest in the futures of my grandchildren by purchasing savings bonds (or stock) monthly for each child. (The stacks of bonds are growing fast.)

*  I will babysit one day a week to help reduce child care costs. (In retirement I will gladly up the babysitting a day or two.)

*  I will paint, write, color, play in the dirt– just about anything creative– I will do it with my grandchildren.

*  I will enjoy seeing the smattering of toys throughout my house, and I will refrain from tidying up until after the grandchildren leave. (I’ve found that I struggle most with this trait.)

*  I will act in a supporting role, providing only the help and advice that’s sought by my children.

*  And I will love unconditionally . . .

What kind of grandparent do you want to be? 

First Time Grandmother Butterflies

Yes, I have them! Even though I have a 25 year old grown son and have tons of babysitting experience, I’m still a little apprehensive. And I know in my own mind and heart, that once I hold my grandson in my arms for the first time, all those fears will flee.

Just as a mother’s instincts start to form, so do a grandmother’s instincts. So, why am I writing this blog entry??

Good Question! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Well writing is therapeutic, even for Grandmas. :p Also just maybe…other Grandmothers will shed some light on my apprehension?? Is it normal to be nervous as a first time Grandma? Please tell me YES! lol

You all better tell me yes………………! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

We have about 3 months to go and our little guy will be here! ๐Ÿ˜€ I think I’m approaching a crocheting weekend. I will do nothing else but crochet. I have to get this project complete and out of the way!

I also have ordered the crib that my son and DIL specifically wants. It will be here in about a week, but guess what???

I’m going to make my DIL wait until the shower..SNICKER – SNICKER – SNICKER! LOL :p =)

I’m a mean Ol Granny, aren’t I? Hmm, maybe I ought to rethink this, those butterflies just may bite me in the hindy??? heh?

Truth be told, I literally can’t wait for this little person to get here. ๐Ÿ˜€