Dad And Me – Going Down Memory Lane

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I’m still a bit distressed about Dad’s passing. It’s still somewhat of a shock, but not as bad as it was. So, I am starting to find some peace with it.

Just yesterday, I saw some Cardinal shirts at Walmart. I immediately thought that would be a nice gift for Father’s Day 🙁 I know we all go through the grieving process when our parents pass; or any person that means the world to us.

However, this man was ultimately my favorite man in the world; although, my husband is mighty close up there. <3

I’ve had this blog post in my mind for quite some time. I’ve just been procrastinating…something I do regularly for a great deal of things.

For Example: I’m still waiting for our taxes to be competed. Should be done today or tomorrow. Hello! Tomorrow is the deadline. 😮 lol

I’m certain that this post is a great deal of therapy for me by looking back on all these memories I have tucked away in the pages of my mind. I can remember back in my youth some phenomenal memories.

Counting One Dozen Excellent Memories 🙂


My dad put spending time with me high up on his priority list. I don’t know about you, but that’s quite a lot to say in this day and age. Granted, that was 45 (or so) years ago.

Not an exceptional amount of individuals can say this about their parents today. Very sad, but true!

#1 I’ll never forget my first ride on my bike without training wheels or Dad holding on. Keep in mind the down-hill I was on; I ended up crashing and bruising myself up when I landed in an alley. Of course, my dad was right behind me. I could hear him cheering me on all the way down. I shed a few tears over that one, however, I got right back up and made sure my knees were ok – LOL and kept trying. Dad wouldn’t let me give up. He wasn’t mean by any means; he just kept me positive. He was just that way. I loved my banana seat and monkey bars bike! 🙂

#2 Ahh, the huge ice storm that hit St. Louis! I will NEVER forget this one. I was off school (I think) 3 days. Very early the morning of all that ice that fallen, Dad had me come outside with him. The neighborhood looked like something out of a Christmas wonderland calendar or book! It was genuinely breathtaking. Dad and I ice skated up and down our street that morning. It was my most memorable time with my dad.

#3 I was on a softball team with the younger members of the church I belonged to…probably (14 or 15 years of age). While I’m not into sports at all, and also didn’t have an ounce of confidence in myself, Dad helped me by pitching me the ball to bat. The memory is so vivid. He would hike up his leg just like the Cards do; so professional. He did help me with my lack of confidence considerably.

#4 Dad loved airplanes so much that he dreamed of being a pilot. I remember my dad taking me up in a helicopter ride. Lots of fun indeed! I don’t remember where we were; I just can recall the helicopter ride. How many Dad’s do that today, considering the many types of technology there is today? Really, I mean 60 to 75% of the world’s population are texting or surfing the net constantly.

#5 Not too long ago, I had gotten in a good habit of typing out yearly Christmas letters that highlighted the most memorable events of the year and mailing them to the people on my list. The last couple of years, I didn’t do it). Not sure why. 😉

Dad made it his mission to let me know how good those letters were written. As a freelance writer myself, that sure meant the world to me.

#6 My father’s laugh! Anyone that knew Dad at his best will tell you, he had the biggest laugh. When we went to the show, he sure didn’t hold back! 🙂 I was trying to remember the last time I heard it. I’m quite certain that it was here at my house at Christmas time. I miss those days so much!

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#7 Model airplane glue! I think this is a given back when he was feeling good. You would find him down in the basement building planes. You could smell it throughout the house. Dad was a pure perfectionist. Well, he was a perfectionist in everything he did!

#8 My closet spanking. I remember one spanking and only (1). My best friend, (BFF) was at the house. However, I don’t remember what I did, (honestly). My friend and I were hiding in the closet! LOL – Not sure how he coaxed me out of the closet. Once we were out, I remember the line, “This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you.” YES, he really said that. 😉

9. Singing songs. Dad sang songs to me quite often. Around Christmas was the most frequent. Although, he sang the song, “Tammy’s In Love.” It made me mad, and the madder I became, the more he would sing it! Lol – The Christmas songs I remember were; Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer, and the Up on The House Top, Click, Click, Click song. 🙂

#10 Christmas! Dad adored Christmas. He loved trees and lighting up the house outside. This reminds me of an evergreen tree in front of the house I grew up in. Dad generously lit that tree! To see it now, it almost is bigger and taller than the house. Lol

# 11 The flying field. The flying field was a park that you could fly model airplanes, both standing in place and going in circles and the remote type. Dad loved going there. When he felt really good, he would go just about every weekend. He enjoyed this thoroughly! (y)

#12 Many trips to the park! I remember Dad taking me to various parks. He would push me on the swings. I remember walking with him too.

As you can see, there were many happy times and memories with my father. I loved him very much. Goodbye Daddy.

A Wake Up Call and Happy Thanksgiving

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My heart is heavy this morning with all the anger and hatred going on (not only in Ferguson) but in other areas of the country. I’m not going to comment either way on my thoughts on the decision that was made on the death of Michael Brown. The most important thing is what’s going on in reaction to it. I’ve never seen anything like this! 

I was glued to my TV the night before last from 5pm until about 2:30 yesterday morning. My heart goes out to the Brown family. What a painful loss. I could not even begin to imagine if that were my son! I watched in enormous disbelief, and all the while asking myself, “What is this cruel world coming to?” I know to an (end) in an hour that we do not suspect.  (Rapture) I truly believe that; as my mother taught me this, and the Bible tells us so. 

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43″ But be sure of this, that if the head of the house had known at what time of the night the thief was coming, he would have been on the alert and would not have allowed his house to be broken into.

44″For this reason you also must be ready; for the Son of Man is coming at an hour when you do not think He will.

45″Who then is the faithful and sensible slave whom his master put in charge of his household to give them their food at the proper time?…

What was I witnessing as I sat there in horror? Violence, hatred, and anger…towards who and what?! 

We ARE living in the last days, specifically how many, we do not know. 

I agree with many…violence  is certainly not the answer! Again, I’m not commenting. I’m just leaving you with a few more scriptures… 🙂

*** From a few apps on my iPad…

O God, grant me a heart full of tender mercy.

Dear Lord, keep my thoughts fixed on what is true, pure, excellent and worthy of praise.

Dear Lord, help me to stay focused on Your word rather than what my human eyes can see.

Dear Lord, may we never retaliate when we feel wronged, but help us to make choices that would show that we love.

Good Jesus, give me a deep love for Thee, that nothing may be too hard for me to bear from Thee.

Let’s keep the Brown family in our hearts and in our prayers! I can only imagine what their holidays  will be like. 😉

With that said, my wish for everyone of you…have a SAFE and Happy Thanksgiving, and please continue to pray for our country and everyone that was affected by the non-indictment of officer Wilson. Pray for peace! 🙂

In addition, lets keep praying for all the police officers that are putting their lives at stake and while they are doing their job to the best of their abilities.

Parenting Tips – Psychological Aspects Of Parenting

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Of course, the following post accommodates Grandparents too. =)

Parenting is literally considered one of the toughest and most responsible jobs in the world. In fact, there is hardly anything more difficult, filled with doubt on every step of your child’s upbringing and more tiring than that.

What causes most of the troubles is that parents need to consider just so many things. To have a child means to live in a whole different world. What you should do, before introducing yourself to some special case advice, is to first consider the general tips, which many years of research have proven to be effective.

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Let’s see some of them

Slow down – being a parent requires multitasking, but what you really need to take into consideration is how that can affect upbringing. By rushing everything with your child, you are removing a fine way for them to learn along the way.

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Take cleaning routines for example – you will obviously want to have everything back in order asap, but by slowing down and explaining every step of the process to your child, why it has to be done and what is done exactly, you can cultivate a sense of understanding and set a positive example for them.

Attention – children require undivided attention. Nothing else is more important, and yet it is alarming how many parents do not fully devote themselves to parenting and activities that surround everyday life. Turn off your phone and use the time to talk with your kid, play and bond with them. They really need it.

Learn the language of your child – according to psychologists, many parents misinterpret child behavior and “language”. Children have their way of saying, articulating and expressing things and in learning how to distinguish among them lies to key to proper communication with the kid. Make sure not to forget that the next time you are faced with crying or other behavior, the cause for it might be different than what you thought.

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Schedule and plan – a child feels safe and secure when they are able to predict the large and new world around them. What you should do is establish a schedule and stick to it whenever possible. This will help them feel secure and calm, which in turn will reflect positively in their behavior. It can also promote useful skills from young age, such as time management.

Let kids be themselves – clearly, you know what is best for your child, no doubt about that. But sometimes it can could have very positive impact on them when give them the option to choose.

For example, you can let them pick the color of their toothbrush. This will in fact encourage them to regularly brush their teeth, as they had a role in the process.


Another example: you can ask them to handpick the few vegetables you need for dinner. Decision-making is an important trait kids need to develop as early as possible. Be the person that helps this process.

Nothing else compares to parenting. It can be hard and challenging, but also a unique experience to watching your child become a grown up in front of your eyes and with your help.

Bio: Ella is blogger, writer, home décor enthusiast and a mother of two. Aside from her home improvement activities she likes to share her experience about parenting, as well. Find more helpful tips and tricks about your home here: Battersea household clearance

Getting Outside With The Grandkids

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Activities For All Grandparents and Moms and Dads 🙂

By: Nanci Wilson

The weather is warming up and it’s time to make good on that goal of spending more time outside, and getting your kids and grandkids to do the same. Why, you may ask? Well, being outside has some great health benefits, and I’ve always believed that moderation is the key to good living, and today’s technology-saturated society offers little opportunity for moderate exposure to nature.

My family has always had a healthy appreciation for nature, but it’s easier every day to get caught up in whatever technology has just come out. My daughter had to go a week without her cell phone because of an ill-placed spring puddle, and she said she felt completely cut off from the world. Funny, because usually technology inhibits me from really connecting with the world, whether it be people or nature.

Here’s a quick fun list of outdoor activities that you can incorporate into your spring and summer routine with your kids, grandkids, nieces and nephews, or whatever young people bless your life.

Swimming- A river, lake, or even the ocean is preferable, but if your area is low on natural bodies of water, an outdoor pool is sufficient. The kids will enjoy any water slides or pool toys available, and all age groups will benefit from the vitamin D and the opportunity to lounge by the water.

Gardening- Healthy eating habits don’t come naturally these days, so growing your own food can have a ton of benefits. Having the kids help you will teach them lessons on work ethic, nutrition, the science of plants, and more. To encourage them to be more invested, allow them to help with the planning, choosing the plants that go in meals they like to eat. You can also let them choose some outdoor décor items in order to let them personalize their garden sections even more.

Hiking- Hiking isn’t just for camping trips. Most cities have great day hikes within an hour’s drive of city center. Portland practically has a mountain right in a residential area at LowerMacleay Park. See what hiking spots your area has. If it’s a bit of a drive, plan some roadtrip games that focus on looking for wildlife, and observing the scenery.

Park Visits- the best and easiest outdoor activity is probably visiting the park. There are playgrounds, wide open spaces, and usually some areas with tree-cover. One park trip can include dozens of activity, whether it’s rambunctious games of tag, reading, having a picnic, or all of the above. If you have a group with varied interests, the park is an easy and cost-effective way to please everyone.

These are just my top few outdoor activities for my family. What is your family doing now that the weather is warming up?

Nanci Wilson writes for Carol Wright Gifts Outdoor Décor to tell the world about her greatest gardening accomplishments and her grandkids.

Happy Thanksgiving And a Prayer

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I wanted to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Hope you all have a great one with your families. 🙂

Take time to LOVE EACH OTHER!

 

 

 

A Thanksgiving Day Prayer

Lord, so often times, as any other day
When we sit down to our meal and pray

We hurry along and make fast the blessing
Thanks, amen. Now please pass the dressing

We’re slaves to the olfactory overload
We must rush our prayer before the food gets cold

But Lord, I’d like to take a few minute more
To really give thanks to what I’m thankful for

For my family, my health, a nice soft bed
My friends, my freedom, a roof over my head

I’m thankful right now to be surrounded by those
Whose lives touch me more than they’ll ever possibly know

Thankful Lord, that You’ve blessed me beyond measure
Thankful that in my heart lives life’s greatest treasure

That You, dear Jesus, reside in that place
And I’m ever so grateful for Your unending grace

So please, heavenly Father, bless this food You’ve provided
And bless each and every person invited

Amen!

–Scott Wesemann

From: – http://christianity.about.com/od/thanksgivingverses/a/thanksgivingpra.htm

Taken For Granted As a Wife, Mother or Grandmother? Are We Thankful Too?

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I’m sure all you Moms can relate to this one if you have a husband…and most of us do??

 

 

For Grandmothers too, I’ll get into that a little later in the post. 😉

 

 

Your Hubby comes home from work and the second he gets inside the door, a routine question spills out of his mouth…

What’s For Supper?

Hmmm, I don’t know about you, but (sometimes, not ALL the time), I resent that simple question! Why???

Well, I don’t have children at home with me anymore, however, I get up at 5AM and workout, then…head straight to my home office and get to work. I work through the day until about 4 or 5PM.

Let me just say, I’m dragging and just plain tuckered, most of the time!!! :/ Now of course, my workload is not heavy labored, and I have a “soft and cushiony work from home job“…LOL!

Keep in mind (with the work I do online), I often get stressed out from my daily workload. Maybe I have an easy “J O B,” however, (not so easy sometimes), I’m tired just the same!

I often deal with important business decisions, transactions, refunds, dealing with my customers, and always striving to keep them happy…for the most part! It’s NOT always easy, like a lot of people seem to think. 😉

I dearly love my Hubby and would not know what I would do without him that’s for sure!! However, when he comes home from his job…his duties/jobs are done for the day.

* Let’s look at what I have to do before retiring for the night…

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I have to prepare supper
Clean up
I’m often doing laundry
I’m often paying bills
I often need to do grocery shopping

I also have to check my online workload before going to bed, so with that said; sometimes I’m up rather late trying to respond to my important clients and advertisers.

So, see how this can become resentful sometimes? Mind you…it’s not all the time that I feel this way. LOL Just those extremely tired and stressful days that the specific question of “What’s for Dinner?” can get to me. Again, love my Hubby LOTS! Just sayin… 😉

Does any of this strike a cord or ring a bell for any of you?

I know for some work at home moms or wives, their husbands help with daily chores and even with the cooking. If you are “in this category,” you are truly fortunate! Having said that, my Hubby DOES do some grilling on the weekends sometimes, and for that, I’m THANKFUL!

Geeze, I even feel a little guilty for my feelings …sometimes.

The above is from the WIFE part of me…I’ll just skip MOTHER and go straight to GRANDMOTHER.— Only because I have the greatest son and daughter-in-law who loves me unconditionally! 🙂

Grandparenting Tips and Duties

Now grandparenting could betaken for granted as well. I’m sure many grandmothers out there feel this way from time to time, do they not?

For Me…, I’m always ready and willing to babysit my grands…unless I’m unusually tired, (and that is sometimes the case), have to tend to my father, or just go see him, (that is once a week), or I’m just stressed out big time for any given reason. I love my grandkids and love spending time with them. However, I also appreciate my kids taking turns with both grandmas. 😉

The bottom line on Grandparenting…

I look at it this way…I want my grands to remember me when I’m old and (I) can’t remember them, OR…after I’m gone! That’s my major concern.

Will they remember me through all the tears and laughter?? I am working on that one, and I certainly HOPE SO!

So, you see? That’s why I’m usually eager to say “YES” to my grands!!

YES, I go through those “taking for granted” days, and also my “menopause” BOO-HOO days, however, it just boils down to…

Let me just say, and make very clear; I am so very fortunate to have the family that I have. I’m a lucky woman and Grandma, and always thankful for family and their unconditional love they show every day!

I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts, any takers? 😉

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How to Avoid Common Problems When Grandma Provides Childcare

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I very seldom post an entry from an unsolicited source, or from content that has already been posted elsewhere. However, I found this post enlightening on a growing grandparenting issue. More and more grandparents are raising their grandchildren these days. And what a GRAND job! I thought the post would benefit my readers. 🙂

From Nannyjobs.org

For many families, Grandma is the first childcare choice. Parents love the idea of a family member whom they know and trust caring for the kids. But there are challenges that automatically come with this childcare option. Here are some questions parents should think about before having Grandma care for their kids.

What type of relationship do each of you want?

Defining the relationship is the first step in making it work long term. One side may want an informal arrangement, where it feels like the grandparent simply visits often rather than provides formal care. In those cases, the primary relationship doesn’t change, it just expands a bit to include this new way of interacting.


The other side may want a more formal childcare arrangement, where the parent takes on the role of employer and the grandparent takes on the role of employee. Both sides must want the relationship to develop in the same direction, otherwise problems will quickly come up and the arrangement simply won’t work. Having mismatched ideas around this issue can also damage the core relationship, so this is a particularly important issue to tackle early on.

Where will Grandma provide care?

For some parents who want an arrangement close to nanny care, it’s important that the child is cared for in his own home. The parent wants Grandma to….

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Book Review – My Grandma Lives In Florida

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I was excited to do this book review, and was delighted to receive the actual book…just for posting this review! How awesome is that?!

 
 
 
 
 
 
Award Winning Children’s Book!
MY GRANDMA LIVES IN FLORIDA

 

 

The many rhymes that generously grace the pages of My Grandma Lives In Florida will captivate any child for hours on end! =)

This book is unique…not like all the other “bed time stories for kids” Happy and Entertaining. All moms and grandmas will enjoy reading it to their children and grands!

I thoroughly enjoyed reading it myself! 🙂

What Is The Story?…

A child alligator, from New York City goes to see Grandma in Florida. What a transcendent experience with bonding with Grandma…especially on a beach in Florida! Charming story.

The graphics are exquisitely detailed…all small children will pleasantly be entertained with fun hours of reading. 🙂

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My favorite page is PAGE 4…It says…

“I love my Grandma and Grandma loves me!”
 

 

I used to say this to my grandson (now 3 years old) A LOT. It would make him smile so! I can’t wait to read this entire book to him. 🙂

Your Child Will Definitely Enjoy Hearing The Words Read To Them Over and Over Again! Promise! 🙂

*** Author Ed Shankman ***
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You can grab this gem of a book Here

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How to Create A Positive Nanny/Family Relationship

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This goes for all grandmothers as well. It also shows how bonding is important with families.

Having the same caregiver throughout the years is one of the biggest draws of nanny care. Not only do kids benefit when they have consistent care, but it makes parents lives much easier too. The cornerstone to keeping your nanny for years is creating and maintaining a positive nanny/family relationship. Here are some tips for creating that bond.

 

 

It starts and ends with good communication. The nanny/parent relationship is like no other relationship. It’s both personal and professional and the boundaries between the two are fluid depending on the situation. Make honest, respectful communication a priority from the beginning. Set up a way to quickly check in with each other at the end of each day and set aside time each month to have a real conversation about how things are going. Clear, regular communication will help you avoid many of the problems that often come up between employers and nannies.


Clearly outline your unique expectations. Every nanny job has typical responsibilities, like preparing meals for the child and keeping up with the child’s laundry. However, every parent is…Read More

What Makes a Family Strong

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Things have been crazy around our house as of late. Nothing is going according to plan and some days I feel as if I could just go running and screaming down the road and not look back. That is if I did not absolutely love and adore all of the wonderful people in my family. We may not see things the same or think the same way but there is one undeniable fact holding us together, we love each other. I have heard we are not the only family that has issues. Is there a picture perfect family out there? I have yet to discover one.
In the past few months I have a son who has gotten himself into some trouble. Teenagers; you cannot live with them but you cannot live without them. I think that is what they say about husbands and wives but it works well in this case too. My son and I are on a different planet most days but everyone in a while we find ourselves sharing a moment where we actually connect. When this happens I find that I usually stop breathing because I feel like if I do the moment will end. In these moments I remember the little boy that used to think I knew everything and looked at me as if I were the core of his world. *Sigh*

I also have a daughter who has changed quite a bit over the last year which is quite hard for me to take. She is in her late twenties and is now in a serious relationship. It kind of makes me wish she had gotten into a relationship earlier, but not really. I have had her all these years, we have been buddies and pals, and we have shared jokes and have loved the same foods, movies, and games. Now that she has her beau she is much more interested in what he is thinking, feeling, and what his likes are. I know she still loves me but I am no longer the “go to” for sharing information. I knew this day would come and even prayed for her to find the right fella but since it has come I find myself in a tug of war between being happy for her and resenting her new relationship. I know in my heart which way this rope pull will go. Such is life.


You never think about things like this when your children are born, at least I did not. Who thinks about their children getting into trouble or leaving you for a new love when you are holding them in your arms? But as all this has been taking place lately I have realized that God allows all this to happen to make us stronger and to help us to keep our focus on Him and not our children. God gives us family but they are blessings, they are not intended to take the place of our heavenly Father. When we put our family in the position of being what we live for instead of God it never works out. Even our family will let us down from time to time even if it is not intentional. This is something that I am thankful I am learning. God is always the same, He never changes, and He is never going to let His children down.

There is another huge event that has taken place just this past week in my life which has made me realize how much I depend on my family instead of seeing them as temporary blessings. My Mom has recently found out that she had a blocked carotid artery which had to be worked on immediately. We spent five days in the hospital together. I know there are some of you that have slept on those little pull out chair/couch contraptions they have in some of the hospital rooms. That is where I have spent most of the last week. I do not think I have one single place on my body that doesn’t hurt.

Mom’s birthday is next week and she will be seventy-seven. They found out when they were doing this surgery that she also needs a triple bypass two weeks after she gets out of the hospital. My heart fell when I heard the news. My Mom is going to live until Jesus returns; at least that is what I have engrained in my mind. She is vibrant, alive, and constantly in motion. Just the week before she was at her sister’s house who is seventy cutting down a big tree with the chainsaw I bought her for Christmas. Yes a chainsaw and she asked for it. She is stronger and much heartier than I am and most people I know as well. She is seldom sick and has always been there for me, always. I just keep thinking over and over that I have to keep my eyes on Jesus and trust Him with my Momma. This is a reminder of how important it is to love your parents with all your heart and treat them well for as long as they are with you. Which in my case by God’s great grace is until Jesus comes!

When things like this happen your whole world starts to shake and you find yourself wondering what in the world is happening. I really do not know what people do who do not have faith in God at these times. I find myself going out of control emotionally and then He reminds me who is in charge of everything and how much He loves us all. He does everything for the good of those who love Him and when I remember this in those panicked moments and ask for His peace then everything becomes alright.

Another added bit of excitement is when the siblings come into town to see Mom and the cousins and the aunts, and the old friends. Throw all these people into the pot, some of them staying in your home and just as upset as you are, and you have a wonderful recipe for high anxiety. This is the time that you can let family make you stronger or take you down. They are the few rare people that actually have this power over you, like it or not. And it is all because of love. This is the reason why we hurt the people we love most. We know they will not stop loving us and we can get down to the last raw nerve in their body and (in most families) things return to the normal loving relationship within just a short period of time. This is especially true in the parent/children/sibling relationships, isn’t that an amazing thing? It is a love thing and that is what makes the family strong.

I don’t know who is reading this or what your belief system is. If you are a Bible believing, born again Christian you know from the Word of God that this is Satan’s plan, to destroy the family. He knows that if he can get the family in chaos that everything else will fall. I am extremely thankful that I am not just running on my love but that I have the love of God in my life so that all these hurdles can be met and overcome. Life is hard sometimes but love is oh so much stronger.

As I am writing this I am also waiting for one of my brothers to come into town. It is a strange phenomenon that happens in families all over the world; kids can grow up in the same identical family and not be a thing alike. My brother and I could not be more opposite. We have learned over the years to bend with each other’s idiosyncrasies and love each other despite these differences. I, being the less confrontational, find myself backing down more often, not conceding mind you, just shutting it down for the sake of love, peace, and harmony.

Strong families have problems, strong families go through crises, and strong families disagree. But what keeps families strong is the knowledge that family is important and love is what binds them. They refuse to let go and they trust in that love to keep them together. They never give up and they never surrender.

About The Author:

Sara is an active nanny as well as an active freelance writer. She is a frequent contributor of http://www.nannypro.com/. Learn more about Sara Here.