Grandparenting Tips and a Wish List From The Heart (Future)

As I sit here at my desk…11:50 AM after, drinking my coffee, paying some bills, doing 3 loads of laundry, and a few other chores for the day, I began to think about my grandchildren; as I often do. <3 <3

I began to contemplate ahead to their future. This thinking pattern had me dwelling about prom, high school, dating, arguments with Mom and Dad, romantic summers and makeup for my granddaughter, girl problems for my grandson, career decisions, car purchases, iPhones, relationships, marriage, bullying,…well, I think you got all those pictures swarming in your heads.??

At least, I hope! lol

 

So, what did all this brainstorming about the (particular) contents above accomplish? What about that (wish list)? And furthermore, those tips??

Well, let’s back up just a bit… Let me tell you something! =)

BOTH my grandkids are as smart as tacks beyond their years!

I strongly believe that (they) are quite secured with powerful wills and fearless spirits.

I also believe that they have spent their share of time thinking about their future and what they will be doing as adults; especially my sweet grandson. My grands are 8 and 5, and growing way too FAST!!! 🙁

Considering (career decisions), I’ve heard my oldest grandchild say, “I want to be a (crop farmer)” and my youngest one say, “I want to be a (vet)”

Both of those choices have a colossal of possibilities, and even MORE aspiring choices in relation to those fields.

Grandma isn’t worried in the least, because she knows they will be good at anything they decide as careers.

However, their choices could change, and change again, and YET, again before they commit! My grandchildren could even spread their wings and explore multiple advancements. They are young and have quite a long time to consider the variables.

Now, getting back to that “wish list” before I lose my train of thought here…

Well, my thoughts are all over the place!! Having said that; it is NOT my intention to make this post essentially on (career picks). 😉

This leads me to consider my health more and more. Yes, Grandma certainly needs to be, and stay healthy in order to be around when all these things take place for sure!!!

So, what’s a wish list have to do with all this?

My wish list is the assorted things that I want to be able to talk about with my grandchildren.

More to the point; I want (them) to WANT to talk about those things (with me). To share tips with them, my thoughts, and my advice.

Important Note: I do realize that I’m not an expert when it comes to grandparenting tips. 😉

*** ~~ While this is ultra important to me; I also realize it may be too tall of an order to become a reality.

In addition, Their parents NEED to be present and have their opinions, their thoughts, their own tips and advice known when discussing those important topics.
=)

All these elements will mold these (2) little people into responsible adults in tomorrow’s society…(whatever that may be). LOL ~~ With how things are going in this world today; it’s hard telling what our society will be like. 😉

Personally, I hope Jesus comes back by then…seriously.

I still have a wish list regardless. My grandkids could talk with me, AND Mom and Dad also!

The Updated List Consists Of: (I want my grands to seek advice, and tips about the following subjects from me).

1) Makeup and skin care advice: My Granddaughter

Well…of course, this would be on top of the list! LOL <3 While, I sure hope she goes to her mom for beauty advice as well. Her Momma is beautiful BTW! <3

2) Girl problems: My Grandson

Now, I can already see him going to his dad for advice about this; that’s for sure! However, I do hope that he will come to me for a tip or two. 🙂

3) Prom: My Granddaughter

I would LOVE to get the chance to make her dress. I used to sew A LOT!! I even made my dress for my parent’s 50th wedding anniversary party. I still don’t know what happened to that dress! 🙁

4) Bullying: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I’m not the bullying expert at all!! However, since I’ve been through it myself, I do hope I get the chance to give some advice…(if the need arises). I certainly hope it doesnt! <3<3

5) Career advice: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I do hope they both have their decisions made way ahead of time. With (most) kids, they end up changing their minds a dozen times; and that’s ok. That is the norm. With that being said; I would be ecstatic if they would pop their heads in the house and seek a little advice!

6) Grandchildren: Both My Grandson and Granddaughter

I certainly hope I get the chance to lend some tips and advice along the way. More IMPORTANTLY; <3 I hope I'm still living when my great grandchildren are born. <3

A Grandmother Can Dream Can’t She?!

What are your thoughts?

Thank you for reading!

5 Reasons We Need Grandparents More Than Ever

5 reasons we need grandparents

(Summary:
Here are the reasons why we need our grandpa and grandma more than ever.)

“A grandparent is a little bit parent, little bit teacher and a little bit best friend.”
 Anonymous

Having grandparents is one of the most blessed things in life. They nurture you with their life experiences and knowledge. Nothing is as encouraging as their kind words during the tough times.

They are the window to your parent’s childhood. They are the perfect companion to play with. Above all, they love you unconditionally.

 

This way, grandparents play the role of a guide, a motivator and a friend in one’s life. However, their role has become more important than ever in today’s scenario. Kids are getting into depression due to the maladjustment between their parents or unpleasant events like divorce and bullying. Adults are prone to drugs and crime.

Here is why we need someone with a grey hair by our side

Grandparents Have a Greater Influence on Their Grandchildren’s Lives

Several studies conclude that adult grandchildren are more likely to be influenced by their grandparent’s beliefs and values. They transmit the values and ethics of social order to their grandchildren. According to a recent AARP survey, 78% grandparents say they have taught values to their grandchildren.

Grandparents are Good Teachers:

From teaching values, good manners to some important skills, grandparents are a great mentor to their grandchildren. Their experience lets you overcome dilemma or stressful events.

 

Grandparents are Encouraging and Supportive:

Grandparents act as an extra layer of support during your tough times. Close relationships with grandparents help kids deal with behavioral and emotional problems occurring during the teenage years. Grandparents listen to their concerns, encouraging kids to open up and share their difficulties with their grandparents.

Grandparents Bridge Generation Gaps:

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When grandparents are involved in the lives of children, it helps create a link between the old and the young.

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This is extremely important because so often it is a misunderstanding that leads to social divisions in society. When young people mix up with their elders, it creates a strong bonding which eliminates the problems occurring due to the difference in attitudes. And it also benefits the society as a whole.

Grandparents Create Family Bonds and Pass On the Traditions:

Grandparents pass on the traditions and values what they have received from their elders. They make family bonds and encourage family reunion. You grow up with those values, traditions, and bonds. They hope that the same things will be instilled in the generation after you.

So you must have understood why grandparents matter more than ever in today’s scenario.

 

They are amazing people and play an important role in the lives of their grandchildren.

However, they need your love, care, affection and time too. If they are living alone and are not able to take care of themselves, consider a good home service for them.

Author Biography:

Sofia Fox is a passionate individual who loves to write about trending topics related to senior’s health and parenting .She is a born traveler. She started her career in 2001 as a freelancer, and now she is working as a General Manager in Affinity Home Care.

Helpful Tips for Staying In Touch With Grandparents

Back in February, I wrote a post talking about tips for staying in touch with grandchildren who live far away. It’s often difficult and sad to not be with family all the time.

Now, I’ve decided to write about some of the best ways to stay in touch with us! The grandparents!

Tip 1: A Phone Call

There’s nothing better than hearing a familiar voice on the phone after a while of not hearing that voice. In this day and age, it’s often hard to grab someone’s attention long enough to talk on the phone. Never underestimate the power of a “how are you?”/check-in phone call. We want to know what’s going on in your life if you’re eating your veggies, and doing your homework.

It goes a long way in our hearts!


Tip 2: Send Flowers

A flower delivery not only makes your grandparents smile, but it also improves our mental health. A recent Rutgers Behavioral Study found that flowers have an immediate impact on happiness. All study participants expressed “true” or “excited” smiles upon receiving flowers, demonstrating extraordinary delight and gratitude.

In fact, 81% of seniors who participated reported a reduction in depression after receiving flowers. =)

Even the colors of flowers can affect our moods! Red is an energy booster, purple is a sleep-aid and stress reliever, while green enhances relaxation.

All could be very beneficial to older people who might be experiencing fatigue and stress.

Next time you’re looking for a gift to give your grandparents or are just looking to send them something, flower delivery are a great idea. 😉

Tip 3: Handmade Card

If there’s one thing grandparents love, it’s handmade items.

It shows you took the time out of your busy day to make something just for us. It makes us feel special and even closer to you, especially from the little ones!

Feel free to send cute drawings, handmade cards, or even just pictures stuffed into a card. All are so fun to receive, and we can hang them up on the fridge so that we can see them every day.

It’s easy to get caught up in your own world and forget about family members you don’t see as often anymore. We understand! But even the little things can make such a big difference to us. Keep that in mind!

Connecting with your College-aged Grandchild – Guest Post

 

 

 

 

 

 

Most teenagers spend their high school years anticipating graduation and the independence that will follow. As much as teens would like to stand alone in their college years, students are more successful in college if they have a strong support system at home.

You, as a grandparent, are so important to the development of your grandchild’s values and goals. Your relationship with your grandchild, at any age, can help establish his or her sense of self, of roots and of tradition.

Members of Generation Y or the Millennial generation are great at connecting with other people. This probably doesn’t surprise you, especially if you’ve witnessed how much time they spend on their phones. (Not even talking! Just staring at a screen!) However, studies also show that because this generation spends so much time breaking down boundaries to connect with others, these kids don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what defines them.

They are receiving an overwhelming amount of messages: from television and the Internet, their friends and their professors. Every day, college-aged kids wade through thousands of different lifestyle options, and they need your support. They may not know it, but they do!
They need structure, and they need values they can depend on.

College is a process of maturation, a coming-of-age stage that demands a lot of independence. Your grandchild is growing into an adult, and this is the time for you to begin relating to him or her as an adult. This is a great time to become a mentor, to share stories to establish mutual respect. Honesty is important. Remind them that you’ve lived at their age. Undoubtedly you’ve made some mistakes, but you have had years to reflect and grow. Passing along wisdom is one of the greatest gifts you can offer a child.

The tough part is getting them to pay attention. When trying to connect with a college-aged student across a distance (via phone, mail or e-mail) think of how you would approach a distracted child. I recommend giving them something small to consider, something that doesn’t demand a lot of effort, but still prompts them to consider their roots and their future. Sharing is the key.

For example, you could send your college-aged student a snack pack full of goodies, and that’s very thoughtful; but you could also send them a pack of blank “Thank You” cards and a sheet of stamps with a suggestion such as, “If you forget those who have helped you, they may have forgotten you when you need help again. Gratitude is always remembered and appreciated. I’m sure your professors would enjoy hearing how they’ve helped you this semester.”

Because we are older, we have spent more time as “Givers,” and we understand the value of Thank You notes more than a young person could. It is never too early or too late to teach a child the value of a formal expression of gratitude, and by encouraging your grandchild to send a Thank You card, you are also encouraging him to form healthy relationships with other mentors. Sending items or sharing personal stories is a great way to connect with a student during his busy schedule.

When your grandchildren are in your home, do not hesitate to recruit them on a project. Building and making things together is an essential part of establishing roots. Who else can teach your granddaughter to quilt or bake an apple pie? Who else can teach your grandson to split wood or build a fence? Who else can teach the patience and hard work of gardening?

Ask them hard questions about their schoolwork and their future, but only when you’re face-to-face. This will require them to focus and will make it difficult for them to evade the question. If they get frustrated, give them space. Later, ask them what was upsetting about the question. Listen and then ask if you can help. Even if you can’t help solve the problem, just knowing about the problem can be supportive.

E-mails and even Facebook updates are a great way to connect with college students. Never forget that your grandchildren are being pulled in many different directions right now, and they may give you the attention or respect your actions merit. Be generous and forgiving, and be consistent. You may have to make a lot of effort to reach them, but later, when they reach the next level of adulthood, they will appreciate it.

Also, your grandchild’s relationship with you could give him an edge in the workplace. There is rising tension between younger and older generations, and if your grandchild has a healthy respect for tradition and the older generations, he could adapt more easily to today’s work environment.

 

This guest post comes courtesy of Mariana Ashley, a freelance writer who offers online colleges advice throughout the interwebs, and welcomes responses at mariana.ashley031@gmail.com.