My Experience With Bullying in the 60’s and 70’s

I thought so many things on July 27th, as I sat down to write this blog post…

Yes! I took a (brief) detour while writing it! Well…I had a lot of thoughts to process. 😉 Lol

First of all, what I have to say in this post is all genuine; as I have no reason at all to lie about any of it. All true to life. Believe me….I sure wish it wasn’t! (I’ll also, add, I don’t want any pity…Nuff said)!

The MOST important perspective of my complex, inner, ramblings this morning was that my son thrived as an adult (without) any mental damage from bullying. Thank The Good Lord! =) That was my greatest fear! He was bullied briefly on the school bus; however, my son didn’t have room for bullying in his young school days/throughout his life; and still doesn’t! =)

The main point for this post is to provide some experienced facts about myself just so you can know and understand me a little better (as a person just trying, STILL… to find my way in this UGLY world).

But first, let me take a trip down (memory lane)…from VERY EARLY in life. 🙁

Unfortunately, I DON’T remember my early days in school (as happy). There was a particular incident that took place that snowballed ……into what ???! 😮

As I analyze my thoughts to try and remember the occurrence that started it all; my mind goes back to what (should have been) a favorable learning experience and a happy occasion.

I was excited about dance class. I’m not quite sure what grade we were in. 1st or 2nd grade?? I also am not sure exactly (what kind of dance class) it was. Although, I do remember wearing leotards; black ones. At least, that’s what they were called back then. LOL

I bet you can’t guess what took place?? Hmm, well; maybe you can, I don’t know.

This (little girl) left a big puddle in the gym. UGH!! 😮

Please, let me explain…

I remember… (not too far) into the class, I realized I had to go to the restroom.

Ahh, well, alrighty…now you know. The cats out of the bag; or should I say BLADDER! 😮

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I tried very hard to let that teacher know of my predicament many, many times, with a wave and a little dance of my own. But did she listen? This woman wasn’t giving me any relief ANYTIME SOON!

NADA! NO! SHE DID NOT LET ME GO!

Hello!! Was she plotting my (unlucky) future?? lmao!

The next thing I remember was the warm, wet feeling trickling down my legs that made me look down at the ever increasing puddle on the floor. It was only then that I actually realized what I’d done.

I know, gross, but keeping it real!

Well, that dance teacher was very much in the wrong! Just getting that out there! 😮

After that ordeal was over, I recall the long walk to the restroom to change clothes. The teacher had another student…(I think) she was much older? Not sure. I’m 56; my memory seems to be fading! Lol —- walk me there. How’s that for a run-on sentence?

I’ll just briefly go over a couple more occasions that I’d like to forever forget.

1) Now, I don’t recall how the conversation started or even what it was truly about. I just remembered the long walk home.

The girl that seemed to be the head of the bullies said to me, “You’re nothing but a pile of s***!”

The following one has a little more guts to it.. lol

2) In math class, don’t remember the grade. However, that’s not what’s important. I remember bits and pieces of this…

During what (should have been a well-constructed classroom), most of my class mates were throwing spit balls, and other things (that I can’t remember) toward me. Maybe some laughing in the midst.

Now was it (really) the entire classroom? More than likely not. Although, it sure felt as much.

Let’s put it this way…it was definitely enough to cause a ruckus while strolling the halls of the school, for sure.

More Importantly…

The (substitute) teacher didn’t have anything to say; nor did she DO anything. She just gave me a smirky smile as I looked at her with, (please help) tattooed on my forehead. lol — I do remember the class was Mr. Greenwald’s. He was the funniest teacher I’ve ever known. He made the whole school laugh; and that was his mission…other than teaching math class, that is. lol – That in itself was an awesome memory! I did a quick search and found a photo of him. However, don’t feel at liberty to share due to copyright. 😉

3) Not to mention (and in general), being made fun of for not making all the hits, catches, reps; or whatever while in gym class and on the playground That’s the true reason why I don’t like to participate in sports…(other than power walking and aerobics) 😉 lol

The latter is so common; I know. However, it didn’t make it any easier! Furthermore, it all stacked up to how I’ve felt about (myself) for most of my life.

I dreadfully recall these memories of bullying as; humbling, ugly, disgraceful, abusive, slanderous, degrading, disrespectful, painful, hurtful, and quite life-changing.

I truly could go on and on; however, I won’t bore you with more. I think you get the picture! LOL

You know…way, way back in my mind (for many, many years), I would always question myself how I could let the world know how bullying truly affected me. Go into detail, like in this post. Did I want (or NEED) to go as far as actually naming names? Naah!! That minor detail is rather pointless.

I wrote this blog post as if I were THE ONLY person on the face of the earth that was mindlessly bullied. Well, let me fill you in on something….that’s exactly what it felt like. The pain was real, and it scarred me for life.

In hindsight, I’m somewhat grateful for having gone through it; (only due) to the fact that it helped mold me (somehow) into the person that I am. I also, realize this post may be pointless to a lot of people. I honestly needed to write it; if not for anything else but, for some sort of therapy. Aka; focus on internal daemons for clarity and peace.

Thank God for the wisdom from my years of living…that I truly understand the (real) reason behind children, (or adults), that feel the need to bully others.

I’ll just leave it at that…

Thank you for reading! =) <3

How to Make Sure Your Child Stays Safe and Has Fun While Away at Summer Camp

For kids, summer camp is a great opportunity to learn new skills, meet new people, experience exciting new things, and, most importantly, have a lot of fun. But sending your child away for a few weeks comes with its own risks. Here are some tips for ensuring your child stays safe while away at summer camp.

Know how to spot a bad summer camp

This first step to making sure your child has a fun, safe time away at camp is to send them to a good camp. Not all summer camps are created equal, and you should know some of the red flags associated with sub-quality camps.

The first red flag is that the camp doesn’t seem to have much of a presence. There is nobody talking about the camp online and no parents willing to sing its praises. Good camps will be known as just that – good camps. A low profile camp isn’t necessarily a bad one, but it should give you pause. Another red flag involves the staff. Ask about turnover. Does the camp lose and hire camp counselors every single season? Are there no long-term employees at the camp? This could signal that the camp is run poorly.

Lastly, any camp that is not completely open to you, the parent, is likely hiding something. If you get any pushback about wanting to visit the camp for a complete tour before giving them your money, or the camp has a closed-door policy where you must schedule an appointment to visit, be very wary.

Prepare them to make the right choices


One of the biggest fears the parents have when it comes to sending their child away to spend time with peers outside their supervision is that their child will get involved in drugs and alcohol. The best thing you can do is to talk to your child in a frank, honest, and non-judgmental way so that they at least have your voice in their head urging them to make good choices if the temptation arises.

Even if you, to some degree, accept that kids will experiment (we were all kids once!), you have to set firm boundaries. Teach them about the dangers of even experimenting with drugs and alcohol.

“Talking about ‘experimentation’ tends to be a very slippery slope. Parents have one idea about what it means, and kids have another idea about what it means. And some kids who get the idea that experimentation is okay will rationalize any kind of drinking that they’re doing as experimentation,” notes ChildMind.org. With this in mind, it’s best to just put a hardline “no” on any sort of experimentation.

Involve them in the camp-decision process

These days, there are hundreds of summer camp options. Many of them specialize in certain fields, activities, or sports. Talk to your child. If they have a strong a specific interest in something, a specialty camp may be the best choice. If not, a general interest camp is likely the way to go. You certainly don’t want to force your child to go to a camp that doesn’t interest them in order to try to force it on them.

Ask them if they are comfortable with a sleepaway camp or if they’d rather come home at night. You can certainly encourage them to be brave and face any fears they may harbor – but certainly don’t force the issue. That’s a recipe for an awful camp experience.

Summer camp can be a wonderful learning experience for your child. If you do the research into camps and take the time to talk to your child about making good choices, you can be assured they will have a fun, safe experience.

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Love and Celebrate Your Mom This Mother’s Day

For Mom – Lost to Breast Cancer! <3

I came upon this today while enjoying reading all types of quotes and stories about Mother’s day. These 20 quotes are awesome. (Make sure you click and read below)!!

To those that still have their moms, please ALWAYS take the time out of your day to spend quality time and also,….tell her you love her!

Even if it means mending relationships!!! =)

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Lots of Quotes — (20)! To Celebrate Mom On Mother’s Day
By Terri Coles Read  It Here! —>  Huffington Post.ca

 

Happy Mother’s Day Everyone! =)

Sharing a Nice Find Today – Coping With the Death of Your Pet

Anyone that knows me well knows how I adore animals. While growing up, I always remember having dogs. Three I can remember well, however, I think there were more. I also, remember having a tiny grey kitten.

My parents made me get rid of it only due to the fact that I didn’t know how to properly care for a cat. 🙁

 

 

After I married, I have had many cats. I’ve had four, and currently have a tuxedo cat.

He IS precious and always LOVES to be in my lap. He is the most loving cat that I’ve ever known or had.

We had to put down the cat we had previously, (Jesse) back in October of 2015. <3

My heart was broken in a million pieces. It’s so very sad to lose a pet that you’ve loved and had in your home for many years. For many people, pets are their children, just as their human children, and are “family members.”


Small children don’t understand why pets have to pass away, and are truly affected and -saddened beyond measure when they lose their pets, also known as their best friends, and childhood companions.

I opened my emails today and found a nice article about coping with a death of a pet. I thought I’d share it with you.

I also found a few quotes about animals below…

Please be kind to ALL animals. They have a heart, a soul, feelings, and much intellegence. Respect them and love them just like you would love and respect yourself, as well as your family and friends!

“Animals are such agreeable friends―they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms.” ― George Eliot

“Clearly, animals know more than we think, and think a great deal more than we know.” ― Irene M. Pepperberg

“Animals are the bridge between us and the beauty of all that is natural. They show us what’s missing in our lives, and how to love ourselves more completely and unconditionally. They connect us back to who we are, and to the purpose of why we’re here.” ― Trisha McCagh

“We need, in a special way, to work twice as hard to help people understand that the animals are fellow creatures, that we must protect them and love them as we love ourselves.”
― César Chávez

“Humanity’s true moral test, its fundamental test…consists of its attitude towards those who are at its mercy: animals.”
― Milan Kundera

“Unnecessary violence against animals is a heinous crime. Be a voice for those who do not have one.”
― Debasish Mridha

You can find the article Here

Enjoy! 😉

Young Family? 5 Tips For Moving With A Large Family

babywithdad Moving can be a stressful and strenuous process due to the enormity of the project that has to be completed in a short period of time. For those who have little kids in tow, the task can be even more challenging. To ensure that you can have a smooth move with small children in your care, there are a few important tips to practice.

 
 

Purchase New Games and Toys

Your kids can be occupied if you give them new games or toys to play with during the move. This will allow them to take an interest in crafts or puzzles that will make it easy to have them remain quiet as you load the boxes.


Hire a Moving Company

Instead of attempting to lift heavy items while chasing your kids around the home, opt for hiring a moving company like Wheaton World Wide Moving. The professionals can pack up your personal belongings for you before loading them up into the moving van to ensure that you get on the road as soon as possible.

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Get a Helping Hand

It’s important to a family member or friend to watch your child as you begin to move out of your home, according to mom.me. You can have them entertain your little one with toys in an empty room in the home or even play with chalk in the backyard. Having someone to supervise your kids will make it easier to keep them safe and out of the way. Grandparents may be willing to help out as well.

Pack While They’re Asleep

Many parents quickly learn that it can be close to impossible to pack the home up with kids running around. Make it a point to load up the items and seal the boxes when the children are sleeping during their naps to ensure they don’t make more of a mess of everything, according to washingtonpost.com.

Start Early

Having children in your home can make the most basic tasks take longer than expected. Start packing your home and getting ready for the move several months in advance to ensure that you can avoid stress while caring for your kids.

When you’re getting ready to relocate to a new property, it’s important to ensure that you can complete the task smoothly with little kids in tow. By staying organized and planning ahead, you can successfully move homes and avoid excess anxiety during the process for an easy transition.

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5 Fun Summer Activities You Can Do Even In Winter

summerinwinter Although summer is swiftly coming to a close and chillier days are upon us, you don’t have to put away all your warm weather gear just yet. Luckily, there are a variety of fun ways to incorporate sunnier activities into your winter regimen.

Here are some favorites:

Go Glamping

While summer may be the time for outdoor campfires, s’mores, and falling asleep to the sound of crickets, winter is prime ‘glamping’ time: camping in luxurious style. Set up a tent in the living room and pile it high with comfy pillows, string up twinkling lights in lieu of fireflies, and play some fun nighttime nature sounds on the stereo.


Have an Indoor Luau

Hawaii may be miles from your home and current climate, but that doesn’t mean you can’t bring the festivities indoors. Host a family (or neighborhood!) luau with Hawaiian music, snacks, and decorations. “Decorate with palm fronds and use grass skirting around the edges of tables,” writes Linda Donahue for Livestrong.com, “to go all out, add fake palm trees. For atmosphere, encourage your guests to come in Hawaiian shirts, sarongs and beach wear.”

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Hit The Swimming Pool

Indoor community pools generally stay open all year-round, so what better time to enjoy a beach day than on a snow day? Lay out brightly colored towels and blankets and bring suitable poolside snacks and toys to enjoy in between splashing around. You can even add some gorgeously fun flair with a mermaid Shimmer tail, and turn the pool into an instant tropical lagoon. This is definitely a great way to relive some of the joys of summer.

Head To The Kitchen

Barbecue, tacos, and burgers may seem like outdoor summer fare, but you can just easily fire up the proverbial grill indoors. Once a week plan a fun summer dinner with all your picnic favorites, with StyleAtHome adding: “Mix and match dishes in fun vibrant colors or with funky patterns like stripes and botanic prints.”

Cut A Rug

Head to the basement or family room, push the furniture aside, crank up the surf rock and hold a vintage-inspired indoor dance party, with all the #1 beach hits and appropriate styles to accompany. Serve up soda fountain classics like root beer floats and ice cream sundaes, with Madmen-style summer cocktails for the adults.

Winter is all about keeping the spirit of summer alive, and with a little creativity you can enjoy all your favorite activities long after summer vacation’s come to an end.

Back-to-School Health Checklist

meandgrands Grandmas need to step it up and get in on the safety and well being of their grandkids just as much as their parents…in my opinion. 🙂

From: http://www.webmd.com/parenting/

By Jean Lawrence

 

 

* Make for sure your child’s emergency contact info is correct. I think this one should be on top of the list for sure. 😉

* Updated Shots – This is essential and must be high up on the list of priorities…always! When your child is in a school environment, there are all types of germs floating around. These shots are just a logical way to help prevent illnesses and diseases.

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* Eye Site – Regular eye exams are important to your child’s schooling, and also, home life.

* Teeth and Gums – If you want to keep your child healthy and infection-free, it’s a good idea to make them brush and floss daily. A nice smile is an awesome thing to have too! =)


* Make sure the nurse is aware of your child’s allergies and medications they are taking. Good Golly Miss Molly, this is important; much needless to say! 😮 lol

* Get enough sleep – When I was a young child, I remember going to bed every (school night) at 8:00 – 8:30. What’s the best time for the kiddos to get tucked into bed at night? What’s your opinion?

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* Nutrition – Remember, breakfast is the most important meal of the day =) In addition, is it top priority that your kids don’t consume fast food?

* Make for sure your child has transportation scheduled, wether it be a bus, you, or someone else to drive them to school and back. You never know these days what can happen and WHERE!

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See What The Experts Have to Say

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You can read more @ http://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/back-to-school-health-checklist

Get Your Grandkids All Set For School This Year – Reasonably Priced

avonbacktoschool Awesome (back to school) gift ideas for your grandkids! Grandma, you know you LOVE to spoil.

The kiddos will be starting school in a couple of short weeks; depending on where you live, of course. Where has this year gone?! Whew! 😮

There are tons of gift ideas for your children, grandchildren, niece, or whoever. 🙂

 

 

 

Avon has it all; from
color changing umbrellas, backpacks, socks, bath and body items, watches, stationary, and much more
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Did you know you could get a cool, sun, sand, style tote for FREE just for shopping with Avon??

All you have to do at checkout is
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Make sure the kiddos in your life are all set for school this year….they deserve it and YOU love them!

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Website Review – Get Them Gifts – Solution For Hassle-Free Holiday Shopping

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Ahh, the holidays are upon us once again!

I absolutely love doing website reviews…this is an excellent one. 🙂

 

 

Have you started your Christmas shopping yet? There are many people that gets things rolling very early and have all their gift giving complete and wrapped by now.

I wish I were one of these early birds that’s always one step ahead of all the rest.

There is an easy and hassle-free solution that I personally, just discovered! 🙂

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You can handle all your holiday shopping needs with just a few simple clicks online! Yes! You don’t have to be one of those that are found waiting in a long check-out line 1 or 2 days before Christmas.

However, there ARE SOME that follow tradition and does all their gift giving searches on Christmas Eve. That’s not me…I don’t have the patience for that! All the good stuff is picked over by then, and you probably wouldn’t find the perfect gift for that special person on your list!

I say, “Don’t Chance It!”

For all those that DON’T have that kind of patience, I discovered the perfect solution that can get all your shopping done while in the privacy of your own home. I love the idea of shopping online!

This gem of a gift-giving website has a smart, clever Gift Guide that houses endless categories for finding that specific gift that you just can’t seem to find. Be smart this year, avoid frustration and shop online. You’ll be glad you did! 🙂

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What’s Hot On The Site!

What happens on Christmas Eve usually? Children are often found snooping around when they can’t sleep from the holiday excitement! The living rooms all around the world are filled with the pitter patter of little feet, trying to get a glimpse of Santa!

Get Them Gifts has a special toy section that offers endless toys for all the special children and grandchildren on your list this year!

The owners of this site genuinely saw a need and created a simple solution for easy gift buying without all the HUMBUG!

Get your Gift Buying done early this year on Get Them Gifts!

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Silly, Frilly, Grandma Tillie – Book Review

grandmatillie2I was delighted to get an invite to review the charming book; Silly, Frilly Grandma Tillie. 🙂

Story Published By: Flashlight Press

Written By: Laurie Jacobs

 

 

 

What a clever way to entertain your grandchildren!

 

My first thought while reading the book….
 

#1 As a Grandma, I’m not that good of an actress lol
 

Second thought
 

#2 My grands would see right through me, they are incredibly smart. 🙂
 

However, I will be reading this book to them soon for sure!

 
The Story: A big smile contoured my face when I picked up the book and read it for the first time. This adorable story is about a grandmother who enjoys being silly with various characters to teach and entertain her granddaughters. My favorite character is “Madame Frilly Tillie!” She certainly makes bath time fun. Although, “Chef Silly Tillie” can make an awesome grilled cheese sandwich. 🙂

 

 

Silly, Frilly, Grandma Tillie

I promise, this story will warm your soul and never bore you; as it absorbed my attention to the very last page. It gave me a warm and fuzzy feeling inside! 🙂   

The Book Itself: I found it to be colorful, eyecatching with the vivid choice of graphics and a genuine, captivating story to share with ANY grandchild.   

Oh and, obviously, Grandma Tillie enjoys changing characters and entertaining MORE than knitting! =)    

Watch The Video Below

 

   
 

You can grab this book Here!
 
 

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