Archives for May 2010

Afghan Completed

Hi there,

I accomplished my goal. I said I’d get the afghan completed before we went on our vacation. It’s done and with the blue border. (My son had kept telling me to take the pink and purple out and put more blue in) LOL!

Of course he was very sure they were going to have a boy. 😀
Well I told him that I was going to put a blue border on it to finish it off. He was finally cool about it. 🙂

This is a follow up from Tuesday, March 23. You can view it below, (click on the link)

Update On Grandbaby Afghan

I wanted to get my son and DIL, along with myself, in the office with the afghan and get a picture of it. Alas, that never did happen. However, I did get a pic of it at the shower this past Sunday. (another post coming all about the shower BTW) 😉

I’m pleased with the way it turned out. 🙂

My Experience With Attention Deficit Disorder as a Parent

This was my personal experience with my son, and a stroll down parenting memory lane. The name in the article has been changed to protect his identity.

It was like I was sitting back and watching a horror movie…my son having to the best of my recollection, the third temper tantrum of the day.

A colossal of thoughts rapidly flashing through my mind, I mean “What have I done so abhorrently wrong as a parent?” It was at that moment that I ultimately came to the resolution to have Tyler checked out by a doctor. My husband agreed and supported the decision.

Each time my sister-in-law so subtly converged me about what she suspected, I depreciated the thought, I didn’t want to acknowledge that attention deficit disorder may be the justification to it all. “Had I been in denial, or what?!”

From infancy, Tyler had been bustling with agitation. He was consistently active from the time he got up in the morning to the time he went to bed. I treasured the late evenings, nights were true serenity to me. And I admit this with sheer remorse, guilty as charged. Tyler slept well at night, and he had always been a good night baby. However, it was during the day that things became difficult, consequently with mom feeling overwhelmed, helpless, and exhausted.

From a mother’s perspective, more importantly, my perspective, admitting this is a profound deformity. Our children should be a joy to be around, we should thoroughly enjoy our time with them.

Tyler was indeed properly diagnosed with the disorder in question. I guess you can say there was no more denial, not even an ounce of it, as the doctor that seen him was a specialist and recognized the signs from the moment we met. I trusted him, believed in him, followed his sound advice, and utilized some constructive counseling. With much relief, Tyler was finally a true gem to be around…after he was treated with medication.

Fast forward to 20 years later…

I ensured that Tyler took his medication rigorously from the time he failed kindergarten until a year before he graduated high school. Yes, he made it through school! Not with an A average, nonetheless, he graduated.
He’s doing fine now with an exciting career as a carpenter. After all these years, I’ve subsequently came to the conclusion that I had done something right. Today, the connection between myself and my son is beyond proficient, as well as our relationship.

Ironically, I had found out something rather interesting as a result from the counseling. I had discovered that I had (Adult ADD). Unfortunately, the disorder was inherited from my father’s side.

I realize that technology has evolved considerably , and ADD has become quite the controversial topic among other moms. Today, there are varied behavior modification alternatives to medication. Although, having said that, I don’t have any regrets with how I handled the situation.

As a mom, I did the best I could. However, over the years, my mother-in-law had not consistently shown compliance . Her slightly impertinent thoughts, and words, for that matter, “Ah bull, boys will be boys. The famous words coming from, I guess you could say an old fashioned mother-in-law. I love her very much. I only wish she could have shown just a little more support.

Article Written By Tammy Embrich

Tammy is an Internet marketer, article marketer, and ghostwriter. You can find more grandparenting and parenting articles, tips, and personal experiences, as well as photos and recipes at Grandma’s Home Blogger Place

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And yes, the proud parents of our upcoming grandchild are already wondering if their child will have this disorder.

To Clean or Not To Clean . . . That Is The Question!

Every Tuesday while my daughter attends a college course, I babysit my granddaughters Alana and Mia.  No doubt, I Love Tuesdays!  To make things easier for my daughter, I usually watch the girls at their house, which means one less strategic diaper bag packing experience for my daughter…she really appreciates it. 

So here’s my dilemma, hence the title of this post:  When I’m watching the girls and they are busying themselves with some serious playtime or they are down for their nap, I find it very difficult to just lounge around and do nothing.  There’s always a dish or two (or maybe more, lol) that requires washing, a floor that needs to be swept, or a load of clothes aching to be folded and put away, so I choose a chore that suits my mood, and I complete the task. 

After several weeks of this, it dawned on me that my daughter may not care for my participation in the chores responsibility, so I asked her point blank:  “Does it bother you when I clean while you’re at school?”

“No way, Mom.  I Love it!”

Did I really expect an answer other than that?  Absolutely not.  She’s a loving and appreciative daughter, but she did offer up a little advice, “Just don’t rearrange things or organize, I need to know where our stuff is.” 

So to answer to my own Shakespearean-esque question, and as an offering of advice to my sisters out there, clean what’s on the surface only, and respect your child’s boundaries.

Happy Monday, and Tuesday’s almost here, yippee! 

kj

PS – In the event there is any doubt about my daughter’s need for a little cleaning intervention, take a look at her blog at http://www.labirdsnest.com/search/label/stay%20at%20home%20mom . . . and scroll down for the pic of the laundry pile.  ; ) 

 

 

First Step To Downsizing

Hi there,

As some of you may know, I’ll be very busy in a few months babysitting my grandson. Due to this, I will be saying goodbye to my parenting blog. I’m trying to downsize a bit. So, I will be transferring my collection of parenting articles to this blog. I think these articles will compliment Grandma’s Home Blogger Place, and also will be a nice addition. 😉

I will be focusing on this task next week, also contacting my blog rollers on my parenting blog.

Encorporating general parenting to this blog will surely make for even more discussions. =)

Welcome 2 New Bloggers

Hi everyone,

I’m delighted that we have 2 new Grandmother bloggers. Welcome! 🙂

Donna Casterlin and kj.

I want to thank both of them for their participation. 😀

I’m looking forward to your contributions.

Grandma, Quit Talking….

I was sitting outside the other day with my grandson and grandaughter and two of my friends stopped over. We were sitting there talking and Ava, the 2 year old said she had to go to the bathroom. I opened the door for her and in the house she went. She can go by herself. Hubby was inside anyhow if he needed me.

Well she came back out and tapped me on the leg and said, “I have to wash my hands.” I told her in a minute because I was talking to the lady. She kept tapping me and saying the same thing and of course I kept telling her, “In a minute honey.”

Well I guess she was waiting too long so she tapped me again and said with such a serious look on her little face, “Grandma, quit talking NOW, so I can wash my hands.” I had to turn away because I didn’t want her to see me laughing.

Well I don’t want to have her discouraged about cleanliness after using the bathroom so I excused myself and took her in so she could finally wash her hands. After she dried them off, she said to me, “there, that’s better.” Such a little lady she is.

I had to laugh, it was so cute. I told my son about this and he said yes they have been teaching both her and Aiden to wash their hands after using the bathroom and they are both very good for doing just that. It was just the look on her cute little face when she said that.

So all you grandma’s, when your grandchildren say they want to wash their hands, by all means quit talking and take them to clean up. You will get told, otherwise. LOL

Darlene
Ind. Watkins Associate
http://www.watkinsonline.com/ddemell

Looking Down On Our Grandson

Hi there, 🙂

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. My hubby and I went on a much needed vacation. This was the forever-planned vacation before our grandson arrives. And it looks like (to me) that our DIL will deliver early. If delivery goes through to the original planned date (July 13th), it will surprise me.

We had an excellent vacation, and I of course, ended up buying baby stuff! 😀

I also ended up thinking about my Mom while we were gone. It’s odd how the mind works when we don’t have to think about work! lol

The only thing that would make the arrival of our grandson that much more special would be if my mom was here to see him. 😉

But you see, my mom is busy. She is busy looking down on our grandson and making sure everything goes alright. So, she has already seen him, and I feel her presence.

Thank you Mom and Happy Mother’s Day! =)